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How do you deal with rude Mums at school pick up?┬áHi MoM, my 5 year old boy has just started school and I have an issue with one of the Mums who is really rude everytime anyone tries to talk to her. Her son is in my son’s class and my boy is saying he is mean. I am trying to teach him to be nice no matter what but it is hard when the Mum is especially rude to me in front of the kids. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do you deal with it? thanks

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  • I wouldn’t bother with her just continually instil positivity in your child. If the other child persists take it up with the school.

  • Just ignore them. I recall as a kid my very friendly Mum getting upset at this sort of thing. She tried so hard to be the nicest person to no avail, some people aren’t worth your effort & sadness. She ended up completely ignoring them and began to enjoy her afternoon pick up again.

  • I’m the type of person who says hello to everyone and 98% of the time I get a hello back. There was one mum at school pick up who ignored me on a number of occasions so I realised she didn’t want to interact with me and I stopped.

  • I learn to be patient and explain to my child in a funny manner after. She must be having a hard day. Crikey! Tberes bigger issues to battle than uptight angry mumd. Just share a joke and make it an understanding.

  • I would avoid this mum and if her child is rude too, I’d tell your child to avoid her child. It sounds a bit harsh, but sometimes avoidance is the best course of action.

  • Sounds rude! There are really interesting comments on this!

  • I have parents that swear and act so feral before and after school. I have learnt to ignore these mums and told my daughter that its not right what these mums are doing. Their children are learning from their parents immature and nasty ways

  • I have same problems bit different but ,kindy ,yong Mums stick together ,me being grandparent Carer we don’t get spoken too ,good luck

  • Ignore them is best!

  • There is always one and in the long run she will be the one to miss out when there are “mums” group things at school

  • If you think she might be going through some hard times, and you care enough to want to, I’d make one last effort to engage with her. Do a little background research if you can, and find out whether she’s into gardening or craft or cooking or whatever. Perhaps ask her if she’d like to visit your place for coffee one day, or meet somewhere for lunch. You can turn it around to focus on you when you invite her, saying that you hear that she’s a whizz in the kitchen/garden, etc. and you’d really appreciate her advice with your cooking/gardening, etc. If she responds in a positive manner, then you can take it from there. And if she rebuffs your attempts at friendship, then I’d let it go, and concentrate on people who are not rude to you, and whose company you enjoy.

  • As she is rude to everyone not just you, I’m assuming she’s having some sort of personal/family issue that’s affecting her & her son. Either just ignore her or perhaps approach the teacher to ask if there’ s a problem as you’ve noticed she’s abrupt with her interactions with you & the other Mum’s & that your son has mentioned that the boy has been mean. Perhaps she just needs someone to ask her how she is?

  • i wouldn’t even bother with mums like that

  • How did you deal with it in the end?

  • You just ignore them – I do.

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