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I’m 20 years old and had my son at 18, I’m now pregnant again and have support from my partner and friends. However my mum & older sister weren’t very supportive of my first child and I’m really scared to tell them that I’m going to have another baby, can anyone give me tips on how to tell them and deal with the negative things they would say? Thank you. How do you let your family know your pregnant?

Posted by anon, 04/06/13

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  • I just said “I’m pregnant”. If you’re nervous, try telling them by (say) email, so that you don’t have to deal with their initial reaction. And good luck with the baby!

  • My family lives oversees. We shared it per email so all knew at the same time

  • My dad didn’t like my choice of partner so when I had my first pregnancy, things were strained between us, relationship was none existent. So I was terrified to tell my parents, especially dad. So I told my sister, who told my parents. Dad wasn’t thrilled, actually suggested I should have an abortion. He eventually came round, even buying newborn gifts.

  • That’s such a shame that they were nit very supportive the first time but that may have been because they were concerned for you as you were so young. Every parent has aspirations for their child and they may have been disappointed for you that those goal posts had changed. I’m sure now however that they love your son dearly and would not have it any other way. If you are in a stable relationship with lots of love I think you will find that their reaction will be different this time

  • Just come straight out and tell them. It’s your life, site they can have an opinion, but don’t let it rule you

  • Don’t be scared of their reactions darling!
    This is wonderful news & a joyous occasion, I am sure they are going to be thrilled for you!
    You could be really different & purchase a I’m Going To Be A Big Brother or a Big Brother shirt, let your son wear it the next time you visit your family & see if they get the hint. That would be a really cute way of breaking the news.
    Or you could invite them over for dinner followed by a game night & announce your pregnancy through a game.
    To break my first pregnancy news to my Mother we invited her over for lunch & my partner played Having My Baby on the CD player, poor Mum didn’t get the hint at first!
    For our 2nd we placed the positive pregnancy test in a long jewellery box & wrapped it before giving it to her. That one was quite a shock, poor woman thought she was getting jewellery!
    Use your imagination & ask for your partners input as well so he feels included.
    I’m sure you will come up with something great & they will be over the moon for you.
    Best of luck & congratulations, wishing you all the best.

  • Just have lunch or dinner with them & break the news,good luck.

  • Just be honest and tell them. Good luck with it all!

  • Maybe do a super cute pregnancy announcement so the focus is more on the older sibling?

  • just like what others have said, id just be honest because you are looking after and providing for your other little un so they probs wont be negative this time round.

  • Just be honest and tell them. Your family will most likely be more supportive this time because you already have a child and you’ve shown them that you can provide and take care of your first child, so they probably won’t be negative at all.

  • I agree just tell them – they will probably be happy that another baby is on the way. I bet a few of us have had negative feedback from our families re pregnancy and timing but once the baby is born they all gush over them!

  • Just tell them!

  • Be straight up with them, you don’t need the stress!!

  • Try and make it a happy occassion by buying them small Grandma/Auntie gifts. The first time around, it would have been a shock to them both but they may be more open to it this time around. Good luck xx

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