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According to my husband, I’m cranky all the time. I know my tolerance drops when I need sleep and I do get ‘hangry’ (hungry angry) but otherwise I feel pretty happy. How do you manage your emotions, especially when you’re tired, which as mums we are a lotoof the time?

Posted anonymously, 6th October 2015

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  • One other thing I do is daily writing ! One of my kids has a Reactive Attachment Disorder and the things that have been happening in our house are beyond normal and sometimes dangerous. I started writing in case child protection would get involved and they did get involved indeed, but also for myself. Paper is patient and our stories would be too much to share all the time. Writing helps me to process.

  • How are you going now ? Hope you’ve been able to take care for yourself. When it comes to sleep I’m with you. I’m in bed at 9pm at the latest and don’t do well when I pass that time. I like to read for a bit in bed before I go to sleep. I have a fantastic adjustable bed and can put my head and legs in the lift. My husband and I also both like some personal space throughout the day I like to sit here and there with a coffee soaking up the sun. Or I give myself a time out when the kids are playing up and just walk away for a moment to breath.
    We all are different and have our own things, make sure to find out yours !

  • Yeh because it’s all our fault isn’t it (with a hint of sarcasm) lol
    I usually just say I’m not feeling like my self and I just need 5 minutes to eat/ pee/ breath ….

  • My husband says exactly the same thing. I know when im irritable and snappy but sometimes its hard not to just snap. I try and go for a walk if i can if i cant ill go for a shower just having me time for 5min is amazing lol

  • Think it’s important indeed to take care of yourself in order to be able to give. When your tolerance drops when you need to eat and sleep, it’s essential to go on (your) time to bed and eat when you feel you need to. In the same way you need to also take care for your social and psychological needs. Plan date nights with your hub, catch up with your friends, share about your feelings, make time for your hobbies and exercise.

  • I really need to get some ‘me time’ when possible to pull myself together again.

  • I don’t hehehehe Well I do, but it can be difficult. Having a little me time / relaxing certainly helps. Going for a walk and getting fresh air can help. Try taking some deep breaths before reacting to situations – don’t react when angry / upset

  • It is funny you say that as my sister in law complains about her hub all the time and calls him a sook when he is hungry or tired as he acts like a baby . He has improved heaps though as there was a stage when I hated him , but I think it is a matter of looking after yourself and knowing when you will triggered . Maybe bring a snack with you in your bag for convenience etc …

  • yes gotta identify what the real cause is. i am not a morning person lol. so just avoid me for long enough that i can have a shower and wake up lol. maybe your hubby is just stirring you, they tend to do that lol.

  • I think as Mums we never seem to take enough if any time for ourselves. Even though we are needed all the time, if we don’t have some time away, for ourselves we end up burning out. So even if you just get time out with friends for a coffee date, hit the library, soak quietly in the bath, with scented candles or go for a nice quiet walk, it gives you a chance to refresh and recharge.

  • I try and work in ‘me’ time regularly. It’s so important that I’m happy and well for my family to be happy and well. They tend to feed off me. I know it’s easier said than done, but choose what works for you as me time and enlist the support of the family. I do yoga once a week and love it, or I might need some time in my room on my own to read a book for a little while. A coffee without interruption!? Whatever it takes.

  • I don’t really handle my emotions well at all but I do try to have some time to myself. Whether that be reading a few pages of a book, or doing puzzles, rather than worrying too much about the housework.

  • Allow yourself some “you” time.
    Read a book, see a movie, go for a walk, go to the gym, join a class.
    Even an hour for yourself once a week will make a dramatic difference in your emotions because you will loosen up & feel a bit more relaxed.

  • I agree with KYMICHELLE – getting outside and doing exercise helps and swimming is top of my list too. Body and mind both feel better! :)

  • I go for a walk. I often don’t feel like it but always feel SO much better when I do. Whether it’s with or without the children (often the second hubby gets home I’m out the door!) it’s great to get some fresh air, a break and to get the blood pumping. I also LOVE to swim laps but that takes a bit more time and organisation. The pool is my happy place this time of year :)

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