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I am a mum of one. I have a 9yr old son who I can’t seem to stop wanting to shower with me. I think he is getting too old but I don’t want to hurt him by telling him no.
I tend to shower late at night now or early mornings before he wakes up. Sometimes he will hear the shower running and come in asking if he can have one also.
Am I being silly? Will he grow out of it or do I have to put my foot down and tell him no.
Thank you any help would be appreciated.

Posted by anon, 11/7/2013

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  • I hope you got this resolved. I’d love to hear what you ended up saying to him.


  • privacy is important!!
    he will be staring puberty at 10 or maybe a little more, I believe you need to start putting your foot down.
    don’t be to harsh on him though. just start explaining that he is not a baby any more, he is a big boy not a little boy, big boys need privacy and alone time. also mummy needs to be alone and have privacy. explain how important it is it may also be time to have a talk about puberty and how that is going to change him to help with this.


  • How did you get on with this


  • I think you should maybe suggest to him that he’s a big boy now! too big to fit in the bath!


  • This would be difficult hope it all went well for you and your son


  • Wondering how you went with this? It is better to say no than let it keep going.


  • Hope you found a way to let him know it is no longer appropriate.


  • I’d be having a gentle chat about boundaries and personal space…


  • I hope you has success


  • I think it is good to stop it now as a regular thing


  • what have you decided to do?


  • Mine is 10 and still likes to sometimes get in.


  • How did you go with this situation?


  • Liking the great tips on showering


  • I hope its going well for you and you’ve managed to get him showering on his own


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