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New to this, extremely hard, any tips tricks

Posted by mom482396, 15th November 2021

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  • Be respectful. It will be challenging for the kids too. It does take time, but can be a great relationship. Best wishes :)

  • Cant help you with advice- sending big hugs.

  • I was a blended family child, don’t try to be mum or dad just be more like an overprotective aunt or uncle kids appreciate honesty ask them what they want from you to show love x good luck

  • Accept and treat the children as yours, some kids can be very naughty and rude but then still show them love. Engage them in some discussions by letting them know that you’re not taking their Dad from them and that all you would like is peace, love and harmony.
    Their Dad should let them know you that you love them. He should never discuss you both misunderstanding with the kids (especially if they’re young adults). He should never make them feel much more important than you.

  • I’ve witnessed some absolutely beautiful relationships between step mum and child. How old are the step children/child?
    It may take time and patience to develop trust. Rooting for you!

  • Been there on both sides but I learnt from having step Mums 3 of them actually. Give the kids and their Dad space.. let them have their time together or they may think tney ate losing their Dad. Try to be a friend and also a person they can go to if they need help. DON’T try to be a MUM…….that will come in time. Take it slow and just let it flow…….there will be ups and downs and jealousy but it can work it just may take a slow ease into it.

  • It’s definitely hard.
    There will be most days where they hate you because they think you’ve stolen their dad from their mum or are responsible for things not being given a second go but just give it time.
    Try and be patient and give them their space.

  • Take it day by day.The toughest job in the world.Try and be friendly and don’t take the resistent personally.Just be yourself and try to enjoy the kids .Good luck it will be worth the hard work in the end

  • The initial role of a stepparent is that of another caring adult in a child’s life, similar to a loving family member or mentor. You may desire a closer bond right away, and might wonder what you’re doing wrong if your new stepchild doesn’t warm up to you or your kids as quickly as you’d like. But relationships need time to grow.
    Start out slow and try not to rush into things. Let things develop naturally — kids can tell when adults are being fake or insincere. Over time, you can develop a deeper, more meaningful relationship with your stepchildren, which doesn’t necessarily have to resemble the one they share with their birth parents.
    If you’re new to parenting as a stepparent, ask your partner what would be the best way to get to know the kids. Use resources to find out what kids of different ages are interested in — and don’t forget to ask them.

  • As a stepmum I can say that it can be hard but also rewarding. Keep an open line of communication with your partner and try and work as a team. Talk positively about the childs mum to the child. Take an interest in the childs interests and activities, spend some one on one time with them, find out their likes and dislikes, include the child in decision making for family activities. And if you feel overwhelmed that is completely ok and normal. It can be challenging.

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