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My aunt died yesterday and i dont know how to explain it to my 10yr old, shes had experience with death before and completely broke down.

Posted by Mygirlsmumma, 3rd January 2017

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  • I see this is an old question. How did you deal with it and did you daughter cope with it ?

  • I really like the book suggestions.

  • I just remembered the title of one of the books – The Invisible String. It’s really nice.

  • There are some wonderful book to help deal with this for kids, picture books and such. Try an online site like booktopia for a good range.

  • Every sympathy to you and your family.

  • As she has had a difficult time before with dealing with death a counsellor may be a good idea. They will be able to talk with her and give her appropriate books, information and strategies for coping with the loss and dealing with death.

  • I’m sorry for your loss.
    Be honest and open. Allow her to feel. Don’t be frightened of the sadness. Be available to hold her when she is upset. Maybe she will want a hug, maybe she won’t. Let your daughter lead her own grief. Don’t put a time limit or expectation on when ‘she should be over it’. Grief is very personal. Don’t be scared to share your own sadness. When appropriate remind her that there will be a time when you will be able to think of your Auntie and remember joyous things – There will not always be overwhelming sadness. Let her attend the funeral if she wishes. Explain that it is an important ceremony that allows us to say goodbye and celebrate the life of your Auntie. Being sensitive and emotional aren’t negative things. If she is able to grieve now and feel the sadness as it happens, she won’t carry that sadness with her in the future. Remind her that life does go on and that it is okay to feel sad, loss etc. Be there for each other ♥

  • There are some great books out there. Kids this young are incredibly resilient . It is harder on us giving the explanation. I am sorry for your loss. When our dog was put down, we lay out back on the trampoline, and looked for the brightest star in the sky. I then explained to my son this was Buddy looking down on us to make sure we are ok. He says goodnight to Buddy each evening.

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