One Mum has emailed in asking us: “Hi mums, hoping for some assistance. I am engaged and my fiancé has three kids, hence I’m a step mum. How do you explain to an eleven year old that his family dynamics are different and that my family are his “real” aunts, uncles and grandparents? They accept him and his sisters as family and treat them like family. He refers to us mums partners side of the family as “not real”. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.” How would you explain family dynamics to an 11 year old?