I feel for you! This isn’t an easy question to answer but i think that everyone’s responses are right on the money (pardon the pun) I’d do all of it because as they’ve all said she has definitely got a few things going on that need to be addressed and each of those suggestions will address these issues and help any possible future occurrences from happening or from more serious mental health issues arising from these behaviours. It needs to be a holistic approach so use the “hang time” that’s something we all should do anyway with or without problems as it’ll bring u closer together and the police too while she’s still young enough to be intimidated and scared by them before she gets too cocky if not addressed quickly, keep up the boundaries and stick to yr word no matter what, i know it’s hard i can barely do it myself lol but just do yr best as that’s all we can do and ask of ourselves. Get some counselling for her with your support but you might want to ask around to get a good one as someone said earlier that you don’t want her running rings around them and wasting precious time u need a savvy psych. Don’t be afraid to go to parenting workshops they can be a great wealth of information and tips that you’ll be needing i think for now and in the future. She needs to be held accountable so you need to figure out what will work for you and your daughter and be strong. You’re not alone in this, believe me, and i admire you for saying it out loud as a lot of people would be too ashamed or embarrassed to even consider putting that out there so cudos to u! You’re doing the right thing and be sure to lean on those close to u for support that’s what friends and family are there for. I think i’ve rambled on enough but i hope some of it helps and i hope i covered what everyone was advising u to do because all of it was gold. Just wrap it up into one big bundle of supplies and get to work hun! It’s not an easy road ahead but i have faith that u and your precious daughter will get through this and come out the other end better for it. GOOD LUCK.
Published 2nd April 2020