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My husband and i have 6 kids. And we both feel we are not finished. However my nan would be heartbroken if i do have another child.
My husband and i raise and provide for our kids on our own. We do struggle at times, but for the most part they dont go without.
I dont want to dissapoint my nan, but i feel if i wait to much longer i will be too old (33)


Posted anonymously, 16th March 2020


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  • its your decision only you know if you can cope and provide. have you asked your nan why she thinks is a bad idea?


  • Six kids and you want more, you are amazing. Honestly, is not up to anyone but yourself and your husband to decide if you want more children. Why are you letting nan have such major influence


  • Your family, your decision.


  • If you are struggling it sounds like it gets hard at times


  • Also the average age of a first time mum is 31, so I dont know who thinks 33 is too old! ??


  • What do you mean by you do struggle at times? If this is an issue it will be more so with another child. I dont think your Nan’s opinion is relevant here unless she is helping look after the kids or in some other way like financial.


  • Hi there,

    If your husband and you want another child then do it if you can afford it and it works for you guys, I don’t see why your nan would be upset or why it would concern her if she is not looking after them financially or any other way?

    I believe this is a private decision between yourself and your partner and you need to do what makes you happy and what you decide if your nan gets upset by it then so be it. It is your life and you need to be happy you can’t be trying to please others so if you can afford it and want another one go for it!


  • I dont quite know why it upsets your nan? But this is your life and one thats a decision for you to make not her.


  • You don’t need anyone’s permission for anything to do with your womb or your husband’s penis. Do what you both feel is right


  • it is completely tour and your husband private matter and decision shoukd ve only yours no matter what the other people said


  • Never listen to others, it’s up to you and your husband. Your still young…..I had my last baby (baby number 5) when I was 38 so you still have plenty of years in you. Do it or you’ll regret it!


  • Follow your heart. If you want your family to continue to grow then thats only up to you and your husband. Your nan may be disappointed now but they cant help falling in love with babies. Your happiness is important too.


  • Do what’s best for you and your kids :)


  • It is yours and your husbands choice and it sounds like you aren’t finished bringing children into your family. Unless your Nan is paying for your family it should be your decision.


  • I personally think that if you don’t feel done and if it is right for you and your family (immediate in your house only) then why not? We always will do something that our older relatives don’t agree with but it’s tour life, your home and your decision and in the end …. they don’t stay too disappointed when it comes to another life coming into the family.


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