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The only way I can get him back to sleep is if I nurse him. But this means nursing him constantly through the night. I have tried to stop and just rock him back to sleep but he just screams. For up to two hours. I don’t know how to fix this. He sleeps perfectly during the day. I have a routine and is doing what his meant to during the day it’s purely bed time and I don’t know what to do anymore


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  • I have no answer, as I am in the thick of it at the moment, but it is good to know that I’m not alone as I’ve been questioning whether I am doing something wrong. We are now co sleeping for part of the night and trying some baby cereal at dinner time to try to fill him up a bit and get a few more hours sleep each night, but the constant waking is really getting to me.


  • You can try white noise or womb music to try and calm him down. We also practised safe co sleeping before putting bub back into her own cot which seemed to work well


  • I’d definite;y go to a tresillian like centre for help and reassurance.


  • There could be so many reasons why. I would consult a gp first to make sure everything is okay and then maybe talk to a sleep consultant to get some tips.


  • Is bubs still hungry even when you’re feeding through the night? Would you consider expressing your milk and giving bubs a bigger feed?


  • Your son sounds similar to my son. We’d put him down to sleep at night and then he would wake up after a few hours and we would have so much trouble getting him back to sleep. There’s a few things to try. Infant’s friend – in case he is suffering from wind pain, is good. Another method is if you have a partner, to send him in to see if he can soothe him to sleep – sometimes it’s good to just have someone who doesn’t smell like milk. If all else fails after that, you need to teach him to self soothe. After I had fed my son, we’d rocked him, etc. and he still wouldn’t sleep. We knew that there was literally nothing that he needed. Sometimes babies just cry. After a while, we realised that we just needed to put him in his own room and let him cry it out. After a while it worked, he learned to self soothe and he became the best sleeper ever!


  • My children were the same. I did co-sleep (I know that’s not for everyone) and that did help and I got better sleep that way. But eventually it settled down and they woke less and less.


  • That sounds pretty normal up until they start solids properly. We did find I could get some more rest if my husband got up to our baby the first time in the night as she typically didn’t need food for the first wake up


  • I’ve just hire a sleep consultant- RT sleep. As a last resort because I’m so done waking several times a night for hours!
    Have you started solids? That could maybe help full him up abit longer.


  • I am so sorry. It may not be anything you’re doing; some babies are just like this. However, if you’re in reach of a sleep school, I suggest you contact them for personalised professional advice.


  • Your baby could have a growth spurt. I think a baby should eat whenever it acts hungry. Usually 1-3 hours from start of last feeding. Baby should nurse at least 8-12 times or more every 24 hours (after first 24 hours of life). I remember when my boy was 10 months old he was still breast feeding 10 times per 24hr
    How often does your baby feed in total in 24 hrs. Does he breastfeed effectively ? is his latch ok ? does he empty the breast well, so he gets both foremilk and hindmilk ? (foremilk is the milk that your baby drinks at the beginning of a feeding, and hindmilk follows it. ‌‌Typically, foremilk is mostly water combined with other nutrients, and hindmilk is highly fatty).


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