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  • My sister in laws kids are exactly the same.
    When they come over they play outside and aren’t allowed in the house unless it’s to go to the toilet!
    That way they can run around the yard and we’re not too bothered.

  • I’d get them to clean up after one activity before moving on to another activity.

  • Limit what they do, what they touch, what they eat and drink.

  • Maybe you could make it clear that in your house, your rules apply, and that includes cleaning up their own mess before they leave. That might (eventually) encourage them to make less mess in the first place.

  • Yes. I want some tips too. Great thread question

  • A conversation prior to any future play might be a good idea. Adults need to reinforce the rules of play and cleaning up and respect.

  • Rules and boundaries about play and cleaning up may be useful?

  • Encourage them to clean up after themselves. I always say to my kids ‘everyone start packing up the toys’ and hopefully your sisters kids will copy this behaviour
    Also maybe just say something to your sister about it

  • I always made the kids play outside or they had to clean up any mess made before they left. Normally the Mum would do it for them but I refused to help hoping the Mum would stop. Since my kids always had to clean up if they went anywhere so I expected the same in return. Explain this to your sister and if this doesn’t work then restrict what they can play with and where. Hopefully your sister comes on board

  • I’ve always put a limit on how much gets taken/tipped out, otherwise it’s way too much mess to clean up later. I also say they have to clean that up before taking out the next lot of toys, and they also help clean up at the end of the day

  • Your house – your rules. I did get my kids and friends to make sure they would pack up just before being picked up. I was a little naughty too and would sometimes bake biscuits and tell them that they could have some if they packed up all toys/art & crafts stuff and cleaned up nice and tidy.

  • I always made sure all the kids played outside with the swings etc. there and played chaseys or other group games – they soon tired out and were happy to then play quietly inside with just one toy each.

  • You could set up a designated location for the kids to play and set out a limited selection of toys for them to play with.

  • I get this every time my friend comes over. When you realise it’s almost time that they will go home go and check on them and then get all the kids to tidy up together and do the same when you visit your sister.

  • I would tell them the rules that has to be tidy and all toys back before you leave and if they refuse tell them straight no toys will be allowed to play with then. If your upfront then it’s out in the open.

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