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Anyone have some tips for helping me feel sexy again, married for years & I feel dull, flabby & lingerie does not look that good on me. Try keep active but not in bedroom. Any tips?

Posted by deborah_osborne, 7th October 2015

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  • That’s a completely normal feeling. Try meditation to feel better in your mind, the body will follow

  • We sometimes forget in our busy lives to give each other attention. Go out for a coffee or a dinner, or sit together on the balcony or outside with a wine after the kids have gone to bed and chat and listen, show time, interest and love and the rest will come.

  • have a huge pamper sesh and make yourself feel like a million dollars. i know that when you are with someone for a long time, you get stuck in a rut and become like housemates vs lovers so try to do something unusual and spontaneous. Blind fold hubby when he gets home and then let your imagination take over. lol. my hubby and i just tried to spice things up by buying strawberries and cream, chocolate etc for a fun night and then we ended up just eating all this stuff, normally lol. We laugh about that and we still had a good time. Go on a date to the cinema and dinner or go for a road trip.

  • oh gosh….i hear you.
    I look at myself in the mirror and think ” How could anyone think thats sexy?”
    I do think that we are super hard on ourselves though and of course we are bombarded daily with pictures of woman that are photoshopped and look a million dollars. Heck even people that are not celebs are using filters for the photos they post of themselves on facebook so of course when we compare ourselves with them we are going to feel second rate.
    I dont really have any advice… I hear you loud and clear though.

  • Had my second child 8 momths ago and i hate the way my body looks
    I lost weight and i love that
    But i have no interest in sex :(
    My poor bf has been so supportive the whole way
    Perhaps you need a week away from each other or just a few days
    Then a sexy night or two together !

  • thanks for asking this question. I often feel like this to. Interesting to read the responses.

  • My partner and i both just recently took a week off. We didn’t go anywhere but were just able to spend extra time with each other, stay up later, watch movies actually have time for long conversation. It really helped and i feel so much happier for it

  • So many uplifting comments – I’m following this one.
    Need some enlightenment too!

  • Will be following all the answers, because I feel the same way.

  • Sounds like post pregnancy blues! I get if you had included a pic of yourself, we’ld all be saying “What is she complaining about, I can’t see it!” Give yourself a break

  • Go out for a facial or a spa day! :) endings yourself and then chuck something sexy on and you’ll notice you feel so much better trust me :)

  • You need a makeover & need some new fresh lingerie & new clothes to give yourself the lift you need,a whole new fresh look sounds best.Buy a new bag & shoes,get your hair done,& your nails,put some happy music on & enjoy yourself!

  • I don’t have any tips. But just wanted to say that I am right there with you feeling the same! For me, I am still unhappy with myself following the birth of our second child.

  • I settle for being loved. Sexy may return alter.

  • Some excellent advice on here! Thanks for asking this q – I think most of us go through this. Also talk to the hubby – they need to contribute to making us feel special

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