My father was older when we were born and has always been of the opinion that children should be seen and not heard. He believes in spanking, and in general has always had an aggressive attitude, and his way is the only way things should be done. To be honest I think the only reason we continue a relationship with him is out of guilt. His health is failing, as it has been for many years.
Today he informs me he won’t be coming for his weekly visits as he can’t stand my disrespectful, rude, and disgustingly behaved children. We think our children are typical boys! We don’t spank, and other than a little insolence or backchat, they’re great kids.
However he finds them loud, they interrupt, speak back to him when he tells them off for something trivial (ie running in our house etc) and he can’t stand to be around them.
One of our children is on long term steroids for a medical issue and has meltdowns due to the recurrent withdrawals. My father feels my son should be able to control his behaviour and that we should beat him for it.
I’m torn between feeling sad for the grandparent my children have never had, and mad as hell that my own father could be so despicable. He still expects me to go and visit when the children are at school, however I feel like telling him to go jump!!
What would you do?
Posted anonymously, 31st March 2014