45 Answers

After almost 5 years of being together and sharing a beautiful little girl, I recently found out my partner doesn’t want another baby. We had spoken about it many times and had recently been actively trying but he seems to have changed his mind… I feel a bit tricked as I thought this was the plan and now I’m being asked to sacrifice that. What would you do if you found out your partner didn’t want another baby?

Posted anonymously, 13th May 2014

Want more real mum questions sent to you?

You'll need to check this email to complete your signup.
Ask your question
  • This is an old article. It would be interesting to find out the outcome.

  • I am thinking….he changed his mind once already, chances are he will change his mind again. I hope he did, for your sake

  • I would feel hurt too. Have a talk to your partner and ask him to explain exactly why, why he was happy to then changed his mind. Perhaps there’s a serious reason or maybe he’s simply scared and it’s something you could work out. Also explain to your partner how you’re feeling.

  • You have to respect his decision but he also has to respect your’s to have more children,it needs to be on mutal ground.

  • it this is something you cannot talk about together and reach a solution, well perhaps no bubba is best for the moment. Talk about a puppy!!

  • I think it is better to talk and ask why he changed his mind. There are reasons for everything and it is a bit unfair if he doesn’t give you an answer . It is better to be honest than be mislead which can lead to resentment .

  • I guess you have to work out how much you want another baby versus how much he doesn’t want another child. If neither of you can be swayed, it’s going to mean one of you is always going to be resentful of the other and may not lead to a happy ending.

  • For me it would be a deal breaker

  • Maybe he feels he is the cause of it not happening? It would be devastating but even worse if you were pregnant and then he said he only wanted one

  • Just give him some space and time. My partner was the same but now we are trying for another one.

  • there are obviously some issues in your relationship that I think you need to work through with a professional. otherwise you could be at risk of loosing trust. if you seek assistance they can help you work through these issues and discuss the underlying concerns.

  • Just keeping talking with him. In a year or so he may change his mind and you might too. Just don’t do anything that would be tricking him too…

  • Continue to talk & maybe just give him time, hopefully he will come around. Good luck.

  • I’d ask him to reconsider one more. If not, you have to think of your own happiness.

  • that is a hard one, i wouldn’t know what to do either

Post you answer
Like Facebook page

LIKE MoM on Facebook

What is your answer to that question?
Would you like to include a photo?
No picture uploaded yet.
Please wait to see your image preview here before hitting the submit button.
Your MoM account

Lost your password?

Enter your email and a password below to post your answer and join MoM:

↥ Back to top

Thanks For Your Star Rating!

Would you like to add a written rating or just a star rating?

Write A Rating Just A Star Rating