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My teenage daughter is for the most part a well behaved child. She is by no means perfect but in comparison to other teens I see around I think I am pretty lucky.
However, recently she has truanted school, been in a fight and drank alcohol before returning to school for an evening class resulting in suspension. Removing her phone and all other technology plus grounding were the punishments she received.
Im interested to know what other parents would have done

Posted by alrevedup, 6th December 2013

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  • So tricky with teenagers, they think they are independent but are not. Hormones are every where whilst they go through this transition. She is testing the boundaries and you need to stay consistent. Keep doing what you are doing and explain to her that she has to be accountable for her actions.

  • I wonder if this is signal to want attention . Talk to her and check what her feelings are, otherwise it is best to consult counsellor about her behaviour .

  • Expressions and talks, i know it works!

  • Taking away computer time, that works a treat here.

  • Its alot harder for teenagers now with all the social media outputs and trying to keep up with the so called “in crowd” i agree with what you are doing have you explained why you are doing it and let her know how much you love her and only want her to do her best in life good luck

  • I’m not sure that taking things like tvs or ds’ away from them really work as there is other (bad) things they can turn to that make up for what they are missing out on. What is the reason she’s doing this? Have you split up from her father, moved schools, has she lost friends, does she want to be seen as cool? More talking and support with firm clear boundaries. “if you cannot go to class I will not pay your phone bill etc” type rules.

  • there are some good comments here

  • I think your punishment is pretty spot on with what most parents do. I definitely do not condone hitting a child.

  • I thought your punishment was just. Has the behaviour improved?

  • I hope its worked out?

  • I think the technology angle is a good one as kids are so reliant on it these days

  • At her age I agree with what you did. You have to give tough love at that age and stick to it.

  • Is there more going on? is something happening at school to make her this way?

  • Trust is definitely a huge thing with teenagers, I think the best thing you could do I’d just let her know your disappointed because she broke your trust and let her know that your always there for her to talk to no matter what it is about and then walk away. I think they are more affected when your disappointed and have nothing to say to them more than any lecture or groundings you punish them with. My 16 yr old was devastated when she realized how disappointed I was.

  • I agree with your choices, I was fortunate with my daughter as a single Parent raising from age 9 onward . She was aware already of the expectations and rewards for correct & incorrect behavior and really never gave me any problems but a lot of joy.

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