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9 days after having my son, I was diagnosed with Post Natal Depression and have found it a long road trying to deal with my depression as well as be at home mum to both my 19 month old son and 4 year old daughter. Trying to find the “me” time is the hardest I’ve found. But in saying that, the times I have had to myself, I haven’t been able to find the things that would help me. I think I took the “bare with it all” approach and now have found myself in a hole because of it. Can anyone relate to this or have any suggestions/steps that could ease my racing and (at times) negative mind? Thankyou

Posted by lizabraz, 27th May 2014

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  • Good on you for acknowledging a problem. I suggest you seek some professional help with this.

  • I see this is an old question. Hope you’re in a better place now ! Would love to hear how you’ve survived these years.

  • Depression is such a difficult illness to cope with. Hard to admit you suffer from it, hard for friends to accept. Hope you’re doing better

  • I was diagnosed with PND and PTSD after the birth and I really feel for you. You’re supermum!

    I found music, going for daily walks with my daughter, and decorating my own “safe place” really helped me. Having my own decorated place helped soothe me and remind me I achieved amazing things in my life.
    Do you have any support from family and friends? Do you have a doctor you can trust? Those are really important things to have. You are not alone and should never be afraid to ask for help! You owe it to yourself. Please take care x

  • I was told, if you wouldn’t say it to a friend, you shouldn’t say it to yourself. Be kind to yourself and remember, you’re not alone. Motherhood is difficult. Don’t hesitate to ask loved ones for help if you need it.

  • Definitely music & also spending time with family & friends will help

  • Do small things to ‘Shift the mood’….by lighting a candle, putting on YOUR music, turning the music up and having a dance with the kids, buy yourself or cut some flowers from the garden. Keep our bedroom a sanctuary – a place that’s always clean, smells nice and no kids stuff. Paint your nails.

    Start your day by getting up before anyone else. The silence is bliss. Really enjoy either a cup of coffee uninterrupted, a short yoga or meditation session, doing your hair and makeup, reading a book, writing a blog, or going for a walk if hubby is still home in the mornings.

    Plan a holiday.

    Get out of the house, get into nature. Rug up if you have to. Catch some sunshine.

    Join a mum’s group. Join the local library and gardening club.

    Bake with your 4yo and have a food fight.

    Let yourself have fun.

  • Thankya so much for the advice ladies. I definitely like the point about music. It’s one of life’s pleasures that seems to calm my mind.

  • I found music helps. Headphones in while cooking dinner helped me get thru it. My son is now 16yrs and it does get better but you need to find something that helps you. Good Luck :)

  • I would suggest writing/journalling, that often helps with depression. I hope all goes well for you.

  • I also saw a therapist for about 6 months. excerise and eating right is meant to help too

  • I agree with some other suggestions here on writing it all down- when I’m doing my own head in i sit down and get it all out on paper, it helps me to understand what i’m feeling. Also if you have a support person who can help? my sister suffered pretty bad with her second child and my mum went around almost every day, she said thats the only thing that got her through.

  • Have you thought of speaking with a psychologist. They can help u find and enjoy some me time.

  • try some relaxation methods when you get time on your own. look at the kids in a positive way and embrace the love they will give to you

  • I kept thinking i could get better myself but that didn’t work so now I’m on anti-depresent tablets

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