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My partner and I would like another baby. I was just wondering when is the right time to plan for a second?

Posted by Zoeyjessi, 28th May 2014

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  • A lot of people try to plan it so that their children are two or three years apart. I don’t think it really matters.

  • My first was not even 4 months old when I fell pregnant with my second. At first we were a bit shocked, but it turned out a great blessing for them to grow up so close in age. So you may think it’s not the right time and then it still can turn out to be the right time ;)

  • I think that’s different for everyone.

  • Only you will know when your ready. For me it was when my 1st was nearly 4 and about to go to kindy so I could give new bubs more attention

  • When your ready

  • There is no right time, just when you feeel you are ready

  • Whenever you feel it’s time! 18-24 months seems to work well. I have two 8 months apart and that’s a struggle some days!

  • I don’t know that there’s an answer I can give you for that one. It depends on you and your circumstances. I have a 5 year age gap which has pro’s and con’s. Pro’s….the eldest one is a bit older so understands better and is also a good helper. Cons…I felt like i was starting all over again! Was difficult to get back to looking after a baby.

  • It really depends on what stage your first baby is at, waiting till they are toilet trained is easier so you do not have 2 in nappies. Even if you use disposables it is still twice the amount of expense & work involved, cloth nappies would mean you are constantly washing to keep up with it. If your child is sleeping well & toilet trained your work will be much less, if they are walking it will save your back trying to carry 2 babies at once. Personally I would have liked to have had my children about 2 years apart but I was unable to fall pregnant earlier so there was 4 years between them, thankfully he was old enough to go to preschool for a couple of days a week to give me a break & catch up on paperwork for our family business. Trying to juggle 2 very young children at work in our business was quite difficult & childcare was expensive plus they got sick far too often. I ended up setting up a home office rather than drive an hour to our place of business so I could care for them at home instead of using child care.
    Anything more than about 4 or 5 years between them means they are unlikely to play much together since they will be at different developmental stages & the older child will get frustrated about the baby invading their bedroom & play things.
    About 2 years is a good age gap for everyone involved, if you feel you can cope with 2 babies then go for it. You will know when you are ready.

  • Do you want two in nappies, two in a pram? All these questions.
    Do you want two close in age for companionship?
    There is no secret success. Just loving, healthy environment is main suggestion.

  • whenever you are ready. you already have a child so you can understand and appreciate what a big commitment you are making! it’ll be so weird going from having one child to two and having to say “kids” but lots of fun

  • If you are looking for ‘the right time’ you will never be ready for another baby. What I found works was looking at my family now and then looking at 9-18mths time. If I saw us coping with more children then I discussed it with my husband and we would try for another. We are due with our final bub in 4 weeks and although we are looking forward to the arrival of the baby, it is a very busy time of year for hubby’s work but we know we will manage.

  • I knew approximately how many kids I wanted and I just went with we can afford to support another child and it just feels right.

  • When both are you are ready and when your body tells you that your ready dont go by “time” or the age gap. Its really what works for you not anyone else :)

  • When you are both ready. It sounds like you are :)

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