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Should we have more children? I’d love your advice please.

I currently have 3 children, a 1 year old, 3 year old and 4 year old and we are contemplating having one more.

Was it a big change going from 3 to 4? What was the bedroom situations and car situation like?

TYIA!


Posted by mumof3, 14th July 2021


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  • I have 4 (6, 4, 3 and 2yo). It wasn’t a hard jump from 3 to 4. Life is hectic though and it can be very hard but also a lot of joy. The car was an issue for us, luckily we were able to have an extra seat added to the car we had. My husbands car can only fit 3 kids so we are very reliant on my car. We also will need more bedrooms down the track as we don’t have enough for them to have their own rooms once they are older. They share fairly happily at the moment (except the normal sibling fights). If you both want another child I would go for it. I wouldn’t change my 4 for the world xx


  • I should imagine going from 3 to 4 kids isn’t that much of a jump. I only had 2 and was pretty flat out. Good luck


  • I’ve got a big gap between my 3rd and 4th but 4 kids is a lot easy then 3! Go for it.


  • Hi, if you both want another I’d say go for it ????


  • Its your live and your decision.


  • Such a hard decision to make! I only have two and we’re done {although I would have had more, in a heartbeat!}. I just wanted to pop in and say that I’m one of 4 and I LOVED growing up with lots os siblings.


  • You are financially stable so why not, I hope to have atleast for 4 myself. I’m currently pregnant with #3. If you are still feeling a bit unsure give yourself time as your youngest is still little. You might feel very ready for baby 4 in a year or so, and if not you have 3 beautiful children already to adore.


  • It is up to you. You will definitely need more bigger car and more bedrooms. Also be sure there is someone to help you as all of kids under 5.


  • If you both want another child and are financially able to do so, I would go for it. Yes you will need a bigger car (although many with 3 kids have 7 or 8 seaters these days anyway, so this may not be a concern for you) and your children may grow up having to share a bedroom with a sibling – but these aren’t huge issues in the scheme of things if this is something you both want.

    I would personally love a 4th child, but my husband doesn’t, because of the financial reasons mostly. We only have 5 seater cars and live in a 3 bedroom unit (our daughters share a room and our son has his own room).

    Good luck ❤️


  • My dear friend just had her 9th child, boy number 8! She homeschools them all too, she said that the more you have and closer in age means they grow up and play together and older ones always help out they work as a unit to get anything done she’s super mum.


  • You already have my respect having 3- 2 was enough for me! And I have a 2.5yr gap between.


  • Apparently research shows that parents of 3 are the least happy of any number of kids! Just an interesting statistic and not one to make a decision off, statistics are nothing when it comes to the individual. Hope you make a decision that makes you happy


  • Firstly, it is absolutely your choice , no one elses!
    It does mean a big jump up re stuff such as bigger cars, and bigger homes. I guess the age of the kids you have already may sway you…if some are older and more independent you may feel that now is a good time, ‘easier’ than say when you have everyone under 5 and they are all more needy of you.
    I also think if you really want it , you find a way, but you have to think very hard about things like the practicalities of the less time available for each existing child, and yourself if you add another.
    Think it over not just when you are tired after a hard day, but after a great day, to get a realistic idea. If you are secure and content and want to do it, do it!


  • I know lots of people with 4 children and although each new addition brings challenges, there is also much joy. 4 rather than 3 does tend to make you really consider house size, car size etc and then if you need to upgrade.


  • I have four children. I found that the fourth child meant that we needed a bigger car and a bigger house! FInancially it can have an effect as well. But, it’s absolutely worth it in every way.


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