Hello!

Should we have more children? I’d love your advice please.

I currently have 3 children, a 1 year old, 3 year old and 4 year old and we are contemplating having one more.

Was it a big change going from 3 to 4? What was the bedroom situations and car situation like?

TYIA!


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  • I have 4….6 year old twins, a 3 year old and a 1 year old. I didn’t find the difference from 3 to 4 a big one for us, other than we did need a bigger car.

    I knew I wasn’t done and that I would regret not having another, and can say that our 4th has brought a lot of joy and happiness into our family. We can’t imagine life without them now.


  • We have 4 and I think there’s not much difference between 3 and 4 kids


  • My sister had 6 kids literally 1 year apart from each other, she said the more you have the less you notice the chaos lol but in reality if you think you can handle another one finically and really want another go for it x I think people have no choice then to just manage anyway xx


  • We have four and it was a bit of an adjustment but I wouldnt change it for the world. We had to get a bigger car ( 7 seater) and we moved into a 5 bedroom house ( we were moving anyway so not a big deal) but other than that the fourth just slotted in nicely. I like even numbers, theres never one left on their own ( unless they want to be lol)


  • I have 4 (6, 4, 3 and 2yo). It wasn’t a hard jump from 3 to 4. Life is hectic though and it can be very hard but also a lot of joy. The car was an issue for us, luckily we were able to have an extra seat added to the car we had. My husbands car can only fit 3 kids so we are very reliant on my car. We also will need more bedrooms down the track as we don’t have enough for them to have their own rooms once they are older. They share fairly happily at the moment (except the normal sibling fights). If you both want another child I would go for it. I wouldn’t change my 4 for the world xx


  • I should imagine going from 3 to 4 kids isn’t that much of a jump. I only had 2 and was pretty flat out. Good luck


  • I’ve got a big gap between my 3rd and 4th but 4 kids is a lot easy then 3! Go for it.


  • Hi, if you both want another I’d say go for it ????


  • Its your live and your decision.


  • Such a hard decision to make! I only have two and we’re done {although I would have had more, in a heartbeat!}. I just wanted to pop in and say that I’m one of 4 and I LOVED growing up with lots os siblings.


  • You are financially stable so why not, I hope to have atleast for 4 myself. I’m currently pregnant with #3. If you are still feeling a bit unsure give yourself time as your youngest is still little. You might feel very ready for baby 4 in a year or so, and if not you have 3 beautiful children already to adore.


  • It is up to you. You will definitely need more bigger car and more bedrooms. Also be sure there is someone to help you as all of kids under 5.


  • If you both want another child and are financially able to do so, I would go for it. Yes you will need a bigger car (although many with 3 kids have 7 or 8 seaters these days anyway, so this may not be a concern for you) and your children may grow up having to share a bedroom with a sibling – but these aren’t huge issues in the scheme of things if this is something you both want.

    I would personally love a 4th child, but my husband doesn’t, because of the financial reasons mostly. We only have 5 seater cars and live in a 3 bedroom unit (our daughters share a room and our son has his own room).

    Good luck ❤️


  • My dear friend just had her 9th child, boy number 8! She homeschools them all too, she said that the more you have and closer in age means they grow up and play together and older ones always help out they work as a unit to get anything done she’s super mum.


  • You already have my respect having 3- 2 was enough for me! And I have a 2.5yr gap between.


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