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A very close friend has lost her long-term boyfriend yesterday after an accident few days ago.
I want to give her something to comfort her and assurance that she is never alone. Will be on a flight on 30th December so would like to make that special gift before we leave. Any simple ideas would be really appreciated. Thanks in advance.

Posted by bluedatchi, 29th December 2014

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  • I agree that being there for your friend is more important then anything. Simple things like a plant/tree are the best, also a beautiful box in which she can keep cards, notes etc related to her boy friend can be lovely

  • I think you just being there for her willbe more valued then any gift you could give her

  • A handblown glass friendship ball lots of styles patterns and colours beautiful find them on ebay.

  • Maybe one of those Willow Figurines from newsagents.

  • Not sure if you can do this, but having a teddy bear made with the persons ashes sewn inside are lovely. There is also a lot of jewellery out there for bereavement. Have a look on Google, he’s full of great ideas

  • Yes there really are some lovely ideas given!

  • There were some lovely ideas here. When I experienced a sudden loss like your friend, the best thing anyone did for me was just to be there for me. There is never anything that can be said that will make you feel better but having someone with you who will listen to you and give you hugs and comfort – that is all you want.

    I hope your friend is doing okay.

  • Only just realised the date of this post after coming to read what others had posted. So glad to have read such sincere ideas and wishes, absolutely love the idea of giving a rose plant or similar.

  • I have really enjoyed reading all the wonderful responses here. The rose tree is a beautiful idea, i will definitely keep that in mind.

  • I would suggest that after every thing has settled down and others have gone back to their lives that that is when she will need you most. Don’t stop her talking about him even if she gets upset because it is important that is allowed to talk about him. Many people tell the grieving just to move on but never imagining the level of despair of loosing a loved one. Good luck with supporting your friend.

  • I remember years ago when my darling dad passed away one of dad’s closest friend gave me a beautiful standard yellow rose. That was over10 years ago and I still have that rose tree. I have even grown cuttings from it so dad’s memory will live on and on! He always loved his gardening and seemed to do it more after my darling mum passed away..

  • I want to thank everyone who suggested so many wonderful ideas. You did not just helped me, but you helped other mums as well who needed them too.
    For an update, I got the chance to go out with her and she thanked me for not asking anything about the accident. She said that she will one day tell me but isn’t ready yet.
    I am planning to go back again for christmas and I intend to use ideas from here to give to her. She works so we had to plan a catch up around her schedule.
    We had been friends for the last 17 yrs and we both want to keep that longer as she is also my daughter’s godmother.
    Again thank you everyone!!!

  • my son got his Nanna a glass guardian angel with a beautiful poem. I love photo frames, so she can fill them with memories, and don’t underestimate the value in inviting her around, or turning up with a bottle of bubbles for a chat x

  • I just wanted to say thanks to everyone for their suggestions – I’m also going thru something similar right now so stumbling across these ideas was a blessing. I’ll be going with a nice journal with a personal message inside.

  • Hope you found something for her and that you had some special time with her

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