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What do you do to stay in love with your partner when you are always busy or exhausted.

Posted anonymously, 1st August 2022

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  • You need to prioritise time together, I know that is a cliche, but the relationship won’t work on it’s own. Also we balance responsibilities of family etc, but whoever is most “recharged and ready to tackle the kids, chores etc. So good communication, even if it’s saying “I’m over it right now”.

  • Somedays it is tough and still trying to figure it out.

  • Small things. Things that will show him you love him eg. a note with his lunch; making him a cuppa, organising something nice for him. There are many ways you can show love, you just need to find out what’s right for him.

  • I bought my hubby love coupons that are focused on his top love language which happens to also be mine…quality time. We also have the Adventure Challenge book for couples which has great ideas you can do at home that are free or cheap and can be done any time. It’s truly tough, we have a newborn and all I want to do is sleep when I get the chance…but sometimes simple things like setting the table to share a meal and watching a show we both like while snuggling with hot chocolate are nice. I also make sure to send a little text message to show I’m thinking of him…that’s not all about poop, feeding or ne whinging about being tired hahaha

  • We always found a little bit of time for a cuddle and kiss every morning when we woke and before we got into the chores of the day. It didn’t take long, but it was so appreciated. It is the one thing I miss so much now that my partner has died.

  • It is definitely hard. I agree with the above for the love language book. It is interesting to find out what each others are and then if it is not the same as yours it shows you are going out of your way to show them you love them. Just little things

  • Make a regular time each week that’s your special intimate time, take time out at least once a month for a date night. Make a regular routine of going for a walk together each evening as a family if you have kids and talk. We do all of these things and both work full time with 2 kids, it can be done!

  • I try and always do something nice for my husband during the day whether it’s making him a nice drink, giving him a compliment, cuddle or just having a cuddle on the couch when bub has gone to bed.

  • Just be there for each other. You are a team and came together for a reason. We have little things that we always make sure we do, like when I leave for work we always hug, kiss and say I love you. As hard as it is at the end of a big day it is always important to give eachother the time to catch up and talk. It’s not always easy (I feel like I could go to bed when the kids do) but putting in the effort has made us stronger.

  • this is a great and very relatable question xx

  • Take time to do little things together like watching a show together once a week.

  • Each morning and night we have a cuddle and give each other kisses. Those few seconds just show each other affection and that we still value and love each other even when we’re absolutely exhausted!

  • An interesting read may be “The Five Love Languages”
    The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate is a 1992 book by Gary Chapman. It outlines five general ways that romantic partners express and experience love, which Chapman calls “love languages”.

  • One thing you always can do even though you’re busy is acts of service and gift of attention. For example you can make your partner a cup of coffee, cook a favourite meal, present him every now and then with a beautiful breakfast, prepare him a lunch with a little love note, buy him a bottle with a wee card, compliment on an outfit, send him a blow kiss per text, wrap an arm around him on the go, show affection etc

  • Just keep trying & growing together.

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