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I have full custody of my 10yr old daughter, biological father has not seen or made contact with her for over 7 years, CS is a hit and miss, and is pointless when it is paid. My partner and I have been together for 2 years, been friends for 12 years, and my daughter calls him Dad. WANTS him as her dad. Has anyone been in a similar situation where child has a legal father who has nothing to do with their child and want their partner to adopt their child? How long were the processes? Were you successful? Was it difficult? If your partner was not able to adobt, what other avenues did you take to have your partner legally a ‘carer’ for your child? Thank you


Posted anonymously, 18th February 2021


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  • My step-dad adopted me just after marrying my Mum. Laws have probably changed now but I was already calling him my Dad anyway. Maybe get in touch with someone in the legal department and ask them what they can suggest. Wish you all a most wonderful life together.


  • The are formal requirements for adopting a step child.
    It is unusual for a Court to make an Order for a step-child (or a child who is related to you) to be adopted as adoption is such a serious and final legal step.
    This is partly because a Court can make a parenting order instead. A parenting order for a step-child can provide the step parent with parental responsibility for their step-child.
    Adoption permanently severs the legal relationship between the child and their non-custodial parent and that parent’s family. For this reason, adoption orders in favour of a step parent are rare.
    A legal relationship can be created however between a step parent and their step child without the Court having to make an Adoption Order.
    The Court can make a parenting order which does give the relationship between the step parent and the step child legal status and so, a parenting order can meet the needs of both the step parent and the step child, without formal adoption having to occur.


  • Cant help you with advice but I am so happy for your daughter and you as well. Good luck


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