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“Pre-kids I remember my husband commenting that we would never be ‘that family’ that doesn’t go out to places because it’s all too hard with kids. Somewhere along the line we have become ‘that family’! We have a 1 year old and a 2.5yr old. It seems every time we go out, one has a melt down and we end up cutting things short. Often we now find ourselves avoiding going out at all. Every time the triggers can differ…for the 2.5 yr old it can be anything involving us saying no e.g. no you can’t run off in the car park, no you can’t have that lolly. The 1 yr old gets quite irritable even just driving in the car or sitting in the pram. Any suggestions would be most appreciated as it starting to get quite depressing for both myself and the hubby. My hubby is a stay at home Dad so he is feeling it even worse than me, as every time he even tries to go the shop he leaves feeling worked up and unhappy. ” Any tips for struggling to leave the house?

Posted by anon, 25/04/13

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  • It’s worth persevering and finding things like books or toys to keep the children occupied.

  • At that age I did all shopping and walks locally with the double pram and always had a wee toy, book and snack in my handbag. Make it low key, a walk to the duck pond, a picnic on a field, a walk to the shop, a catch up with friends in the playground, visiting a kids friendly cafe with a play area attached

  • Try going for a late night walk where the children can be calmer not too many people around. Build on that with early morning walks, parks when people aren’t there and gradually increase it to places where a few people are, be consistent so its something everyone looks forward to.

  • Wow, you’ve got it tough. Hopefully the kids will start to enjoy things more, you just need to stick with it I guess. Good luck

  • We just went to activities that were child friendly. It’s easier if you’re with people that also have kids, they’re more understanding

  • It will get easier as the children get older, but for now I’d suggest going out for short bursts eg a 30 minute walk to a local park, and keep trying till the kids get used to a routine.

  • Make sure your kids aren’t tired, make sure they’re fed and don’t stress them out by stressing yourself, they can pick up on stress. Other then that, keep trying as it won’t get any easier if you avoid it

  • Have you tried making a family day once a week?
    Wether it be a trip to the local park or to a nearby tourist attraction?
    We do family day once a month where we pack up the kids & go out on a outing & the kids love it so much they are always on their best behaviour because they are so excited about their surprise trip.

  • You just have to feed the kids get ready to go & hope that today will be easier & the kids won’t be a handful& you can both enjoy your day.

  • I can suggest the playground swimming lessons! It does get easier when they get a bit older though!

  • Playgroups… library…. playgrounds… swimming lessons…

  • This is the hardest part about being a parent, I basically avoind taking my children shopping as this is the one place you can garantee they will misbehave. Maybe try taking them out on outings to the park etc, things that are fun for them, this is a rewarding time as a parent seeing them be happy is very enjoyable. Set firm ground rules & always stick to them so they know you want take any of the misbehaving. Always have a snack & something that they like to play with, with you it helps to keep them distracted. I used to play kids music in the car like the wiggles to keep that part of the adventure. Good Luck & I hope you get out & about a little more.

  • Having young kids can be difficult on outings. It does depend on the outing you are talking about tho. Our little ones are now 10, 5 and 3. Sometimes my 5 and 3 year old can be quite difficult, especially going out for dinner!!!
    If going for dinner, take a dvd player or ipad and some colouring in and pencils to keep them occupied.
    We tend to go to dinner at places that are child friendly and have a toy room or play area to make it a little less stressful (although its still stressful).
    If its outings such as shopping or something the children will enjoy then use the 1, 2, 3. If the children are playing up count to 3 and then remove them for the situation and head home or back to the car. Its really frustrating at the start as you will be in the middle of something when you may have to leave, but after the kids realise you aren’t giving in they will start behaving and changing their ways….hopefully

  • stay persistent!! also take snacks out with you so if the kids ask for something say no but you can have this.

  • Have everything ready the night before (eg snacks packed, nappy bag checked) so that you can just leave, and there’s not a lot of fussing around first. Try to plan short outings initially, and give your kids lots of praise when they behave well. Make sure there are some trips that are just about fun for the kids (eg a trip to the park) to start with.

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