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My husbands been called to be a witness in a long running dispute that’s been dragged to the courts. It’s affected us both so I really want to go and see the end of it and bring closer to that part of our lives. My question is do I take my 5 year old son who suffers badly from seperation or do I leave him with his nan and grandpa where I know he will be ok and safe just not 100 percent happy? I’m fighting within myself we could be all day waiting for courts or we could be in and out in a couple of hours. We will be gone at least 1 night.

Posted by anon, 22/11/13

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  • I would leave him with his grandparents too. Such a long sit is very boring for a 5yr old. You could contact your son with messages and a phone call during your leave

  • I would leave him with his grandparents. I don’t think the courthouse would be a good environment for him.

  • I see this is a very old post. I’d be interested to know how you went and what decision you came too. Thanks.

  • Leave him with the grandparents. It will be easier for you to focus without him being there. He will be happier with them then hanging round the court

  • I would leave your child with grandparents and phone in occassionally to make sure all is okay.

  • I would leave with grandparents, its a log day for a 5yo to be sitting quietly

  • Court is not a great place for children to be. Unless he can sit still for a long amount of time quietly I would leave him with his grandparents. I a. Sure they will love having him and perhaps you could do a few shorter visits to prepare him?

  • I’d be inclined to leave him with his grandparents. Court can be scary for one so young and is unpredictable. Maybe get him something special to take to his grandparents that he would enjoy. Maybe a movie or a new book or toy. Try to be up front with him as much as you can. All the best.

  • Yes I think court would be a scary place for a young child as well!

  • Leaving with the grandparents would be the better option. Hanging around for hours, being bored, stressing you, isn’t ideal. Way more fun with the grandparents

  • Also; hope all worked out for you.

  • Court would be a scary place for a young child.

  • Leave him with the grandparents, your question sounds stressed so i imagine you will be mega stressed at court better with nan and pop

  • Leave him with the Grands the court is not the place for him

  • I would leave him with his nan and pop, it is no place for a child sitting around a court room and he wouldn’t be settled and you would probably have to leave with him anyway

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