I left my husband 7 months ago, after being very unhappy in our marriage. constant put downs, awfully treated and big issues – basically an abusive relationship (mainly emotional) I got tired of the ‘change’ not coming in life so I left, and was much happier, despite the abuse continuing (I haven’t gone through a day without some kind of DRAMA!) and now that I have moved on, yet still grieving that my marriage wasn’t able to work, he is saying he swears he didn’t realize it was that bad, he is deeply sorry, he loves us and that he is definitely changing. He says he was an idiot to let it get that bad and he wants to give us the life we deserve. I am much stronger now and feel like I would be a fool to go back, but is it actually possible for a person with that history to change, or is it just another power game for him?
Posted anonymously, 10th March 2014