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My daughter has never been overly clingy and has been really good with the new baby. But the last week everytime the baby cries she will run over to me and want to be picked up saying ” me” so that I can’t pick up the baby. Any tips for helping her through this phase

Posted anonymously, 17th May 2021

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  • Give her special jobs. …
    Ask her advice. …
    Watch the baby together. …
    Include her in the care for the baby…
    Read stories about her new role. …
    Let her tell the story. …
    Acknowledge her feelings. …
    Spend time alone with her. …
    Let her do her own thing.
    Make her feel special…

  • Best thing you can do is constantly include her. I gave birth to my third baby 6 weeks ago and my 2 year old loves helping do things like getting nappies for baby, helping when I change, tickling feet to keep bub awake etc.
    I also put together an activity pack for her so she can sit next to me when I feed and she’s kept happy with drawing, little dolls, I’ll read to her. Congratulations mama, and hang in there! It will get easier soon! X

  • My third was a very clingy toddler and at 2 I ended up putting him into childcare 1 day a week just to get use to people and being able to know it’s ok to not have me around. Worked well for me and him.

  • Have 1 on 1 time with them when you can and let them help with baby

  • Include her. It’s really normal and really hard. I would try oh no our babies upset can you sing to bub while I try rock them.

  • It’s a hard thing, I feel for you xx Sometimes being involved helps the little ones, that way they get to feel a part of your time, make time for them sometimes when you’re finished with Bubs and maybe find things that they like to do that will keep them occupied outside of that. Don’t worry, you’ll find the things that work and it will all get easier – time is an amazing thing.- I highly recommend the book love languages for children by Gary Chapman, my kids are well passed that toddler age now but it’s something I have noticed a big difference in the kids the las few months of incorporating it.

  • Let your toddler be involved with everything. Let her help with burping, get her a stool so she can watch you change nappies, get her to play with the baby, and cuddle her when your feeding the baby. When bub is asleep, give as much attention to your toddler as you can so she doesn’t feel left out.

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