When my daughter was in 3 year old kindy she would stand in the centre of the room and simply watch others playing. She was happy to talk with the teacher and would come home telling me how the other children played and then re-enact their play at home. Fortunately, our teacher was very experienced and told me that there was nothing wrong at all, some children are observers. I was also told that her personality would be loved by teachers from about year 2 and up. I now have a child who thrives in year 3. There is nothing wrong with your child simply being who they are. Cherish them and their individual ways

Posted anonymously, 31st October 2015

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  • yeah some kids like to have time to themselves instead of playing with others. a good daycare will not worry, bad daycare says the child is anti-social.


  • I went to a parent teacher meeting when my son was in grade 1 or 2. I though he was doing well academically and mixing well with the other kids til this meeting. The teacher told me how my son would stand and watch all the other kids in the playground play but not join in. I was broken hearted, he has no friends I cried. I hated sending him to school after that, thinking if him alone at recess and lunch. But he grew into a wonderful young man, I can’t be prouder. My advice, don’t stress too much about childhood angsts, most are phases

    • Its so true – I can never understand why young children are expected to develop at exactly the same rate and in the same way – “milestones” and School reports that grade social and emotional development are on many levels fundamentally flawed. Image if the game was done to adults!!


  • Yes, too many people assume that difference is bad… It’s not always.


  • Every child is unique and individual and glad your child is thriving.


  • I’m so glad that all worked out for your daughter


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