A Father's Day ruined - Real Mum story on MoM

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It began when I checked my wallet to find that I had spent the money I had for my sons Father’s Day stall the previous day and I’d forgotten. I apologised to my son and told him I could give him money tomorrow or we could buy something later in the week. That afternoon when I went to pick him up, other children in his class came up to me and said that my son had to stay in the class and he’d stolen money. A feeling of dread started creeping up as I walked into his classroom. His teacher explained to me that whilst doing reading, my son had been sitting at another students desk. He must have seen the money in her desk draw and helped himself to it. He then went to the Father’s Day stall and bought a present for his dad with the stolen money. He was soon found out, the present was returned to the stall and the money given back to the girl he’d taken it from. My son knew he’d done the wrong thing because he couldn’t even look me in the eye. His teacher and I agreed that the police would be brought in to speak to him (in order to discourage him from doing anything similar). I got home and turned on my mobile, which had been playing up. I had 3 missed calls from the school and a text message explaining what had happened. I called my fiance later that evening to explain what our son had done. He was furious until our son said “dad i stole the money because I wanted to buy you a present for Father’s Day”. My fiance was quite upset afterwards and told him he didn’t have to steal to buy a present and a simple hug, kiss and handmade card on Father’s Day would have been enough. He then told our son that he’d ruined Father’s Day for him this year which makes me sad as it is the first Father’s Day for him with both our boys. He’s even said to me “I don’t want any presents now”as a result of this drama. I’m going to be working with my son tonight on something homemade and he has been disciplined for his behaviour with no ipad time and no cartoons.

Posted anonymously, 4th September 2014

9 Comments

- - mom81879 said
  - 26 Sep 2015
    4:11 pm
I think dad was a bit harsh :/ But it’s not good to steal. Sad that he thought he had to steal to buy a present. That’s because of all the hype an BS they have about these days. I just love to spend time with my kids on Mother’s Day, nothing more!

- - mom56842 said
  - 16 Sep 2014
    2:42 am
I too feel the same as some other mums, your son did the wrong thing but goodness my heart does go out to him and I know you did the right thing.

- - mummamj said
  - 08 Sep 2014
    11:29 pm
This was not the first time he has been caught stealing but it is the first time that he has been caught stealing money. He was warned by the two teachers that caught him trying to steal items from the classroom last time that the next time he was caught stealing that the police would be called. Whilst the police have been asked to come in, they are yet to speak to my son. His teacher has discussed possibly having the police speak to all of my sons year group as there are other students who could benefit from their visit. Whilst our actions may seem extreme, we want to send a strong message to our son to discourage this behaviour. Our son is only 6 and has been diagnosed as having autism. Our son has spoken since then about wanting to steal which we’ve quickly discouraged and explained why. I was able to salvage Father’s Day by helping my son to make a card and encouraging them to spend some time together on Father’s Day.

- - pakeko said
  - 08 Sep 2014
    7:28 pm
Hope that you are all able to move on from this, he has more than done his time a hug and chat about how we all make mistakes might help

- - mel1 said
  - 06 Sep 2014
    11:01 pm
Your poor son. I feel for him. I think he would have leant his lesson after being caught out and the teacher and police dealing with him. The rest, seems to me very harsh. He’s really copped it from everyone and is probably so ashamed. I think a little talk and a big hug are due. I just feel sorry for him, we all make mistakes and need to be supported and taught right from wrong, but being so shamed is not constructive. I hope Father’s day can be salvaged for him and you can all enjoy what is supposed to be a family day together.

- - hopefullyheidi said
  - 06 Sep 2014
    2:44 pm
I agree with Damish. What a sad thing to happen coming up to Father’s Day. You did the right thing. I hope tomorrow is better for you all.

- - tammykilby said
  - 05 Sep 2014
    7:21 pm
Mum that’s no good I hope he has learnt his lesson now not to do it again

- - BellaB said
  - 05 Sep 2014
    12:52 pm
Oh, so incredibly sad for all of you. Your son definitely did the wrong thing – and you’ve done the right thing by taking it seriously and addressing it – but it’s so sad that it came from his desire to make his dad happy. I hope Sunday is a better day for you all.

- - damish70 said
  - 04 Sep 2014
    10:58 pm
My heart goes out to your child. Yes he has done a bad thing but he’s been punished for it ten-fold. He’s been ridiculed by the class,been spoken to by the police, had his Ipad & TV shows taken away from him & worst of all he’s disappointed both his parents. I’m not sure of his age but he’s certainly learned his lesson.