Do some parents not think about the consequences of what they give their little ones to eat and drink?? The others need to remember your 9 month old has yet to be understand some things aren’t right but they are not old enough to realise that. They are in your house. You have the right to say that their child is old enough to understand more than your baby can……Your house your rules. Totally yours if you are paying for all the food and drinks. If their child is damaging something of yours and they don’t step in, whether they like it or not you have the right to do so.

When they are both yours its a lot easier to have rules – living by different rules is hard. We recently went on a holiday with a group of friends and one of their daughters (same age as mine, 12) was buying revealing clothes and my daughter wanted them as well (no chance)… she also has facebook and instagram and a few other apps that I wont let me my daughter have so of course I was the mean mum – my response – so be it!

It would be easier with two of your own – same rules.

Sounds like an experience. Don’t let it put you off having baby number 2 though. As you say, different parenting ways and the olde kid already has learnt bad ways. With your second bub, it will all be done your way, no interference, too easy

they let their 16 month old drink coffee

i understand. my children’s grandmother will MAKE them tea to drink and say that the kids like it but they always waste it. i have told her not to do it but she ignores me saying that it is alright.

Coffee and coke? For a 16month old?

I don’t let my little one drink coke too.

i have a friend that has a daughter when she was 2 she let her have a fizzy drink ( coke or lemmonade ) when she comes over to play with my kids and i offer her a jucie or water she said no i only drink fizzy drink … even at night mum get me a fizzy drink to put next to my bed.. Some parents need to grow up and undertsnad coke is not for a 2 year old. she is now 6 and still wont drink anything but coke he mum is having a hard time a kindy because she puts coke in the drink bottle and the teachers said we try to encourage healthy eating and drinking. this mum thinks onone can tell her what to do ..

lol all our kiddies have bad habbits