So I have a 19 month old daughter and a 6 almost 7 month old son. They are my beautiful little babies that are the only things keeping me sane. Im over the simple things like the fued and arguments of which grandparents are better. I don’t see how there should even be the battle really. I’m one of six girls brought up by a single mum and only had ever known one grandmother who in that fact wasn’t around much, so I honestly don’t know the feeling of having two grandparents let alone four. When I fell pregnant with my daughter I was 18 and boy did I cop the lot of it from my family mostly my mother. I was pressured into having an abortion and when I didn’t want to go ahead with the termination I waited till past 12 weeks thinking they would all accept the idea of me having a baby. ..I thought wrong, I then received emails from my sisters regarding adoption companies and even received calls from adoption companies and pamphlets. I had cut ties with them until I was about 36 weeks pregnant and sure enough they all started talking with me and all the lovely “you are going to be such a great mother” nonsense came about. I then fell pregnant with my son shortly after birth of my daughter and yes sure enough all hell hit the roof. Coming on 7 months since my sons birth I feel more and more distant from my family and closer to my partners family. I have my mother living with me at present and I have been in trouble for everything I do. I take my children to play group of a Tuesday and my daughter goes to kindy of a Friday and my mum says that is too much. I play with paint and playdough and all sorts of activities at home with my children everyday and mum said I shouldn’t be because its making such a mess. My children have been out of routine since she moved in and she threatens to have them removed as I have apparently no parenting skills what so ever. I have an older sister who has two children herself and everyone just compares her to me…like oh if these were so and so’s children they would not be having a dummy blah blah blah. ..it just infuriates me as to think that my oldest sister is the only one who is obviously allowed to have kids… Why do families have to be so hard.
Posted anonymously, 20th March 2014