About Holland - This story is autism, and how amazing autism can be

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“I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability – to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It’s like this……

When you’re going to have a baby, it’s like planning a fabulous vacation trip – to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It’s all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, “Welcome to Holland.”

“Holland?!?” you say. “What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I’m supposed to be in Italy. All my life I’ve dreamed of going to Italy.”

But there’s been a change in the flight plan. They’ve landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven’t taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It’s just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It’s just a different place. It’s slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you’ve been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around…. and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills….and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy… and they’re all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say “Yes, that’s where I was supposed to go. That’s what I had planned.”

And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away… because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.

But… if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things … about Hollan”

Posted by suzi.mumma.bear.codi, 23rd July 2013

5 Comments

- - mom113055 said
  - 21 Apr 2015
    1:39 pm
this story is good

- - mom57522 said
  - 06 Jan 2015
    8:51 am
A wonderful attitude is dealing with life changes.

- - mel1 said
  - 30 Apr 2014
    7:36 pm
You’ve expressed your situation so beautifully, I understand what you mean. Sometimes we do just have to accept what life throws at us and make the best of it. Holland is just as beautiful as Italy, just in a different way.

- - jodie80 said
  - 31 Mar 2014
    10:48 pm
wow your a great writer …. what a great way to put it.,

- - squeekums said
  - 23 Jul 2013
    10:43 pm
Just read all 4 of your stories and wow!
What an amazing, scary ride! Such a lucky boy Ryan is to have such a strong mum!