I’m a mum of two. My first baby was very calm, listened to instructions and generally obeyed most of our rules. We could take her out with us and trust that she would be relatively well behaved. My second child was a fire cracker. He never sits still. He’s impulsive and curious and wants to know about everything. He often is so excited about things that he won’t listen to us (also, is so headstrong that he wants to do what he wants). I have found it incredibly difficult not to compare my two kids and find myself often wishing my second was more like my first. Recently, I read an article about looking at stress triggers with your children and I realised that my second was causing me constant stress because I felt like I couldn’t control him or anticipate him. It was causing us friction and I felt like I wasn’t a very happy or fun mum to be around most of the time. In the end, I wrote down a list of things he did that made me anxious or upset and then what I could do to counteract my stress about things. For example, at the park when he wouldn’t come when it was time to go – my strategy was to give him 3 warnings and then tell him it was time to go and stick to it (no matter how big a meltdown). It’s probably something that most mums do but I found I got too wound up about him not obeying me or not calming down. Once I accepted that he was just high energy (and little – obeying me will come with time and consistency) then I noticed that I wasn’t such a grumpy mum. Has anyone else had this epiphany?
Posted anonymously, 11th October 2016
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mom81879 said
- 17 Jan 2017
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mom176887 said
- 11 Nov 2016
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mom81879 said
- 27 Oct 2016
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