I’m extremely happy with my child’s daycare centre. I had to wait 15 months to get a spot. Honestly never waited that long for anything in my life! It caused me a lot of anxiety – the possibility that I might have to go with a centre that I considered secondary to this one so that I could return to work. My child has developed, progressed, made little friends and most importantly I feel very supported by the staff who tell me my child is very happy there. (I’ve spied on her through a window when she was playing and I have to agree with them!) Being my first born there have been some instances where I did not know she could do certain things – for example follow simple instructions, pick up things she has thrown, put things in the bin, etc. I’ve been doing all this for her! The centre has been good for me but great for her. Now, I’m on maternity leave with number two and I feel this sense of guilt that I am home and my child is not. I’ve been recommended to keep her in as long as I can afford it by both parents in my situation and the centre itself. She is very active and requires a lot of stimulation, unfortunately I do not have a lot of the resources the centre have and she has been learning a lot from the other children (another thing I cannot provide!).
She eats, sleeps and behaves better at the centre than she does for mum and dad too. Which, makes me feel like a bad parent. Friends with toddlers assure me this is just the way it is with toddlers?
When I return to work next year, I’ll need a spot for both children, on the same days. Which may or may not happen as the centre does not prioritise siblings. If I reduce her days, will I be disadvantaging her? I’m not sure which is easier to deal with – the anxiety that she could lose her spot or the guilt that she is there, not here.
Posted anonymously, 28th July 2015