After 14 years l would give up,it’s their loss!

Does your husband comment about the situation at all? Maybe he thinks it best to stay away too. I know somebody who was treated a bit that way. Guess who had debts the wife paid. MIL didn’t offer to help either.

When I first got married ( a long time ago ), I was a bit like you , a people pleaser. The problem with this , is eventually you will end up being unhappy and miserable because you are not being yourself. For you MIL to be nice and talk behind you proves she maybe two-faced. I think it is time to be yourself , because if anyone tried very hard to make me like them , then I start getting suspicious . Liking people so a personal choice , so your perception is incorrect . Perhaps they are not sure who you are hence they are talking about you etc. Be careful and be yourself .

I think the issue is theirs, not yours, so this is not your cross to bare. Don’t indulge nasty people by giving them a part of yourself.

Some great answers given! Thanks so much for sharing this!

My own family don’t like me, so don’t feel too bad. Can you possibly live your lives without having anything to do with your inlaws?

family doesnt like me

Enjoy your life with your family and do not worry about them. They need to respect you to be a part of your life. Care less and they may just change their ways.

well you just have to do what you can and don’t worry about this pity behaviour

Those that Matter don’t mind and those that Mind don’t matter … Focus on the people that accept you for who you are.

why bother my family in law hates me also I couldn’t care less that’s there problem and if its not me they out someone else always bagging someone just shows you what sort of people they are. give up waist of time there the ones missing out not you. you got the man and the kids

It sounds like you have done a lot to try and get your in-laws to like you, without success. You can’t make others change, only they can do that. I’d suggest remain polite to your in-laws, but don’t keep making a huge effort. Do things that remind you that you are a beautiful person, like buy yourself a special something or get a massage. And don’t think about your in-laws – they are the ones with the problem – not you.

nice story

great story to read

you cant change nobody,evil is evil

I think we have the same mother-in-law. We can’t make people like us and with a mother-in-law like you have – why would you even care. I also live in a different state now to my in laws and now I know what paradise feels like 🙂

Vidald 79 summed up everything that I would have said. You have done all you can. Be polite and respectful and you walk away the bigger person and they look like niggling ninnies with nothing else better to do than talk about someone else and their life.

Why do you even need them to like you? Be polite and respectful because you need to own your behaviour and be proud of it but you don’t have to lay down and be kicked either.

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  • • mom93821 replied
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  I agree with your comments; good advice.

Do the best you can to keep the peace but don’t go out of your way to accomodate them

You have already done everything you can…