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So my five year old son has been going through a really strange stage changes. Like crying when I drop him off to kindy because he doesn’t want to stay (he used to love going ) becoming very attached to a teddy he has named ted dog, not wanting to sleep in his room at night and not wanting to eat his tea. Im really unsure what to do. I have tried spending one on one time with him and talking to him about how he is feeling but im not getting any where. I feel so guilty like I have done something wrong I just dont kniw what if anyone has any tip please let me know

Posted by alyce, 27th August 2014

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- - hopefullyheidi said
  - 25 Oct 2015
    10:55 am
Yes, I would check with the teacher to see how his friendships are coming along and how things are going there.

- - mom93821 said
  - 27 Dec 2014
    5:57 am
Kids do go through stages; however; do check with kindy and ask about his friendships. Also; maybe get him to draw some pictures; including kindy. Kids often draw what is bothering them(if there is anything?) on paper and then talk about it. Good Luck!

- - arcticwynta said
  - 12 Sep 2014
    11:51 pm
It could just be a stage but also take notice of any little changes to his routine could throw him off as well.

- - BellaB said
  - 01 Sep 2014
    12:41 pm
It’s probably not you. It may be just a stage (sometimes that’s actually true) or there may be something going on with someone else in his life. Try asking questions designed to get him to tell you what he’s feeling and why.

- - pakeko said
  - 31 Aug 2014
    8:53 pm
Check with the kindy that nothing has happened to upset him. I not it may just be a stage that you work though.

- - tamandimmy said
  - 31 Aug 2014
    8:16 pm
Check there is nothing else going on?

- - mrsgreen12 said
  - 29 Aug 2014
    1:15 pm
It’s very common for them to go through this at this age
This is their transition age where they are becoming big kids
some kids go backwards and act more babyish and some kids go forwards
it takes some time for the transition and then there is another transition at 6/7 yrs
You need to just keep encouraging big kid behaviour, put your food down but be very sensitive
reason with him, explain why he has to do things like go to kindy, why its good for him and good for you. Mum has to clean the house while you play at kindy etc.
Big boys do this. Make sure he is reassured and knows its ok. If you let him not go to kindy then he wont see the big deal and not think its important. you have to start how you mean to go on. its hard to be tough but as long as you are sensitive also. Explaining things to kids in age appropriate ways helps alot. good luck
- mrsgreen12 replied
  
  29 Aug 2014 , 1:16 pm
  foot* down lol
  - alyce replied
    
    29 Aug 2014 , 8:28 pm
    
    Thank you so much this helps so much . As he is our first it is all new to us.
- - damish70 said
  - 28 Aug 2014
    11:41 pm
Perhaps mention your concerns to the Kindy teacher & see if they have noticed any changes in his behaviour. The might be able to ask him or shed some light on the situation. Sounds like he’s feeling insecure for some reason.