sounds like you all had a great time, i hope he is still enjoying playing

Since he enjoys it his dad should want to take him!

Sounds like both of you enjoyed it. I would speak to the father and have your son speak to him as well and try and sort out that issue.

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  • • hopefullyheidi replied
    • 06 May 2014 , 10:42 pm

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  Yes my son was begging me to ask on his behalf and his father refuses to communicate except via a communication diary, so I mentioned it via the diary on my sons behalf, as he is too apprehensive to ask his father.

I am a mum and manager of my sons team, I always am calling out encouragment to all my little emus, I see many kids disappointed did to split families and not both parents there, but we always keep kids cheerful and happy and tell them how well they did, reward them after game, just remember it’s all about the kids be as loud as you can, encourage all the way, it’s sport for enjoyment, after many years as a footy mum I just give give give to my kids.

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  • • hopefullyheidi replied
    • 03 May 2014 , 2:17 pm

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  Thank you so much for your advice

it is so disappointing when the other parent doesn’t come to the party for the benefit of their children. still, good on you

Thanks again guys. I have found so much support here. You see all of my family are interstate and I work all the time to help with all the legal costs incurred by his father trying to take full custody. I wasn’t eligible for legal aid and it has cost me over $20,000 with loans taken out by my elderly grandma and my mum has loaned me $10,000. At almost 32 it makes me feel terrible having to accept this money. Thanks for listening to me rant. It really helps me. I love my boy dearly and hate to see him in the middle. I’ve tried to shield him but the other side have not done so. The poor little man has heard his step mum say she doesn’t want to raise him anymore, while he was lying in bed and some wicked untruthful things about me. Thank goodness they have given in after they took me to court and are moving to Melbourne, so my son will see them once a fortnight. Thanks again for all your support and kindness fellow mums, it means so, so much to me. xxx

kids sport has so many advantages

Its great your son has an interested, proud, supportive mum. I’m sure you more than make up for your child’s father. Its great he gets to participate in sport when he’s with you. As he grows, he may get to play more sport when he is old enough to have more control. His silly dad doesn’t realise the happy and fun times he is missing out on.

I wish that was the case Christial it nearly makes me cry writing this because of what that man puts both his son and I through. My son begged him to take him to cricket and he flat out refused. Unfortunately we have a shared care arrangement and on the family BBQ night at the school it was his night. He wouldn’t take our son and I wasn’t allowed to as it wasn’t my night. He told our son that he didn’t want to eat crappy sausages and he doesn’t know any of the parents and quite frankly he didnt want to know any of them. All in his own words. I’m so sorry for letting this out, there is much more to the story that I might post soon. He is an academic with a phd and thinks he is far above everyone else
And his new wife also has a phd and thinks she is far above everyone else. Neither of them can think of my son in all of this. Very short sighted people.

I’m sure your son would be able to convince his dad that he really wants to be at sport supporting and playing for his team. Kids love their sports once they get involved!

Good on you for getting him involved in something active! And for giving you a mummy social outlet

And personally I think you should tell his father to get over his ego and take his son because it’s what his son likes. Pure selfishness that is.

Thanks so much for all our supportive comments ladies. MoMs is really the only place I feel supported. Last time he asked his father to take him on his weekend to Milo cricket this Summer (it was the very first time he had played sport or been a part of a group) his father told him he had more important things to do like organise his wedding. I have looked at the schedule for the Auskick season and it saddens me to see that one of the weeks is on his father’s weeks and it will be when he gets to play in the half time gap of the seniors luckily I think I have him when an afl member visits.

you would think the Father would think of his child and take him to his games which it sounds like he really enjoys. I am sure their was other parents using their voice as well

you would not be the only one yelling from the sidelines!!
its upsetting that his dad wont take a couple of hours out of 1 day to take his son to sport

It’s sad that your son has to miss out on half the matches because of his Dad’s feelings.

Oh how sad that your ex is choosing not to participate in such a great activity. Team sports have so many benefits for children and adults alike. I hope your ex sees the light soon.

It’s a great feeling watching your child play a sport and do well at it.
I loved watching my daughter play netball and my two boys play footy, the look on their faces when they or the team score a goal is priceless.
As for his father your son will grow up knowing his dad wouldn’t let him do something he loves doing and he will end up holding it against him.