Getting pregnant - not as easy as you would think.

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I had spent most of my life avoiding babies – I was put off by the vomiting and poo stories that I had heard, and the thought of having someone who was so dependant on me was terrifying. My husband felt similar and so every time the conversation turned to having a baby, we would go on a holiday instead.

That was fine until I hit 33, and I still didn’t feel ready but decided if we were going to do this, it had to be now. I had rather arrogantly thought that getting pregnant would be easy – I mean now that we were trying it would just happen right? I learnt the hard way that it does take time.

I found it frustrating watching people around me get pregnant, and as each month ticked by without any news, I started to wonder what was wrong with me. I started to experience strange feelings of hate towards strangers who were pregnant, coupled with feelings of guilt for feeling that way. What was going on?

Just after my 34th birthday I decided to start getting tested to check everything was ok. After a couple of months of tests, I was referred to a gynaecologist as I had a cyst and a polyp. I thought they were nothing but he advised that an operation would be wise just to rule out the cyst and polyp as issues.

I was booked in pretty quick and everything went very well, and I was over the moon when the very next month I found out I was pregnant! It is just under a year later, and at 35 years of age I have just given birth to a son.

So for any women out there trying to get pregnant – don’t give up. Although in the scheme of things I did fall pregnant in a relatively short time, it didn’t feel like it at the time. Having spoken to other women, I now know that the feelings I had during the trying stage seem to be quite common, but most were scared to talk about it, thinking that it was just them. It just goes to show you that you shouldn’t go through these things on youe own – you really do need to share with others your experience for your own sanity.

Posted anonymously, 30th March 2014

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- - mom113055 said
  - 07 May 2015
    3:01 pm
storys are nice

- - mom61924 said
  - 03 Jul 2014
    6:12 pm
Congrats. A few friends of mine are having so much trouble it’s so sad

- - catgrrl3 said
  - 21 May 2014
    4:01 pm
awww congrats on being one of the sucess stories

- - arcticwynta said
  - 09 May 2014
    7:26 pm
the less pressure you put on your self the harder it is. Most people fall pregnant when they have given up

- - kcusens said
  - 01 May 2014
    10:21 pm
Wow!!! That must have been hard on you but glad to hear you got there

- - christial said
  - 01 May 2014
    8:00 pm
Congratulations! I know it can take a long time although I was a lucky one and got pregs first month.

- - alex_nisbet said
  - 10 Apr 2014
    9:23 pm
it is so hard sometimes when trying, every period feels like failure, every baby you see you just long for a little bundle of your own glad you got your happy ending xx

- - ollieas88 said
  - 05 Apr 2014
    11:10 am
I’m trying too and it can get quite depressing. I’m glad your story had a happy ending!

- - fruitwood said
  - 04 Apr 2014
    1:39 pm
I’m so glad everything worked out for you

- - hopefullyheidi said
  - 31 Mar 2014
    10:10 pm
Thanks for sharing your trials and finally the wonderful gift of a bub! It is important to never try and go it alone and to share experiences with others because there is always someone out there going through a similar thing and that’s what I find great about this site!

- - fatheroffaprincess said
  - 31 Mar 2014
    8:18 pm
great start here thanks for sharing

- - yyon4699 said
  - 31 Mar 2014
    2:57 pm
so true… sometimes even when dr says you can never get pregnant miracles happen ! so if it is meant to be it will happen!!

- - cinta said
  - 31 Mar 2014
    2:11 pm
I think your honesty is great, and I know so many women that fell pregnant the first time no worries at all, and have never been able to conceive again, glad it all worked out for you xx

- - arcticwynta said
  - 31 Mar 2014
    1:23 pm
well said I think it is always a good that both partners get checked to rule out any thing and if all is fine than don’t put pressure on your self to fall pregnant as it always happens when you don’t try to hard. I suggest both as my daughter found she has POS and when she was right the doctor just as a thought tested her husband to find out he was sterile. So this helps you know were you are at the start

- - jodie80 said
  - 31 Mar 2014
    10:18 am
well said it took me 7 years