Grave side or church service - Real Mum story on MoM

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We have just been to our beloved friends funneral yesterday and after travelling 5.5hrs to get there that it was only a grave side service for them. We love his wife and realise she must have had a reason although it was so sad that he did not get a church service and the true send off that he deserved. We always thought that the idea of a graveside funeral was for the poor unfortunante people who did not have many to see them off.

His life was so full of funny events and stories and they we ever so absent from his ulogy. Which brings me to another question should a ulogy be put together by an assortment of people because if it is just put together by one it always just seems to be about their experiences in life with that person leaving most others experiences and memories out.

My children were even suprised how much was left out that they knew, although they did also learn some new life points about him.

No matte how he was sent of he was a lovely person so important in our life and much loved and enjoyed by all that he knew and crossed paths with.

Posted by Lov'n'Life, 22nd June 2013

13 Comments

- - Cynthea Jenke said
  - 24 Apr 2015
    8:22 pm
Some people just choose to go that way. I know that i dont want something big but very private with family and friends

- - mom113055 said
  - 18 Apr 2015
    3:07 pm
top story to read great

- - mom113055 said
  - 11 Apr 2015
    2:08 pm
nice story to have a read

- - mom113055 said
  - 26 Mar 2015
    9:16 pm
it s a great top story

- - mom93821 said
  - 12 Jan 2015
    6:27 am
Sorry for your sad loss.

- - mom57522 said
  - 04 Jan 2015
    8:45 pm
How we choose to say goodbye or remember is up to each I individual.

- - mom56842 said
  - 28 Sep 2014
    4:37 pm
Times are changing regarding funerals, I know some people that don’t want them, hubby and I feel the same and my parents didn’t have funerals, ashes scattered was all they wanted. Sorry for your loss.

- - meimei said
  - 31 May 2014
    1:46 pm
I feel sorry for your loss.

- - michelle_margetts said
  - 24 Jun 2013
    2:40 pm
I agree with the other replies here. everyone needs to say goodbye in their own was and by you just remembering in the way you are, then you are saying goodbye in a way that fits and suits you and your family. His family had their way of grieving and farewelling. We are all different in how we deal with what life gives us, it isn’t a reflection on a lesser feeling or importance.

- - kjgarner said
  - 23 Jun 2013
    6:16 pm
It’s all good I wasn’t offended, people have different views of whether you have church or graveside funeral. Each to their own. If we had stacks of people there we probably would of had a church funeral but because it was little we opted for grave side.

- - lovi said
  - 23 Jun 2013
    10:46 am
Some people consider a Church Service a circus – my grandmother did and same with my mother in law – we were threatened with daily haunting if we gave my grandmother a church service lol

- - broke said
  - 22 Jun 2013
    11:05 am
I am so sorry I did not mean to offend you and I am sorry to hear of your loss.

- - kjgarner said
  - 22 Jun 2013
    10:47 am
When we had our daughters funeral, we just had a graveside funeral. We didn’t want a church service one we just wanted to have very close family and a few close friends share the sad but special day with us. We had afternoon tea back at our house though so everyone could catch up and remember her.