Today I was leaving a local play centre with my two kids… Miss one was in the pram and miss three was walking. Miss three stumbled and fell with an apple in her hand and the apple ended up completely immersed in dirt. Now usually I am an advocate for the ten second rule, but this was just too far gone, so I took it off her and she proceeded to completely lose the plot and throw herself to the ground. I asked her to get up and told her to just stay with me. She screamed louder as we waited for a car to drive into a commercial driveway in front of us. The passenger had her window down and as my child began to wail even louder this person decided it was necessary to glare at me and shake her head at me as though I had thrown my child under a bus. I was infuriated and instantly came out with ‘what is that look for?’ Possibly followed by an equally unnecessary ‘stupid cow’.
Emotion just boiled over. Why are people so quick to judge when they have no idea what has happened from the outside looking in? A wise person once told me that kids who are walking through the supermarket not crying or playing up are often being occupied with a big fat mars bar in their paws. The mums whose kids are kicking and screaming are the ones whose parents have had the strength to say no to the demands of their children.
Does that lady not think that I was not anxious enough? Did she think that I didn’t want the world to swallow me up? Clearly it was more necessary to take matters into her own hands and kick me while I was down. Being a parent is hard enough without having every man and his dog judging your every mood. We should be supporting each other… A reassuring smile, or nod is acceptable, but don’t judge our fellow mummies… They are likely to be doing it tough enough already
Posted by haldem337, 3rd September 2013