I Don't want to say goodbye - Real Mum story on MoM

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When I was 7yrs old my parents separated so until I was 15 I only got to see my dad one weekend of every month and 1 week of each school holidays. I got used to it pretty quick because I didn’t understand the whole situation and both parents had new partners and I got along with them as well because I was so young. I always felt that I didn’t see my dad enough but he moved over 300kms away so that made it really hard. I’m 27 now and I still feel the same because I worked full time until I had my daughter and it’s a long drive to see him just for the day. I found out the other day that my dad has now got cancer and there nothing the doctors can do. I’m finding it hard to come to terms that my dad is dying and there is nothing I can do except be supportive and make the time he has left enjoyable. Even though he hasn’t got long to live I now regret that I couldn’t see him all the time and im going to miss him so much more when he passes. If anyone is in a similar situation as me please make the effort and spend as much time as you can with them. I think sometimes we forget that they are our parents and that they won’t be here forever.

Posted anonymously, 15th February 2015

7 Comments

- - Tracro3 said
  - 26 Nov 2015
    9:23 pm
My thoughts are with you

- - mom113055 said
  - 24 Apr 2015
    2:10 pm
i like reading these stories it s fun

- - hopefullyheidi said
  - 28 Feb 2015
    9:40 pm
Situation is different during childhood is different but going through the same thing. My parents are interstate and I have custody full time of my son and work full time. He sees his father every second weekend. I would dearly love to get to Tassie to see them and I know I will have regrets later in life, but with work and financially it’s almost impossible for me to get over there at the moment. It, along with other things has taught me to appreciate life and people more and that anything can happen at any moment.

- - mom57522 said
  - 17 Feb 2015
    10:49 pm
What a very sad time for you. Its quality, not quantity of time that matters.

- - aleishagebert said
  - 17 Feb 2015
    3:33 pm
Its not your fault that you where unable to spend the time with him when your parents separated. Spend the time that you can with him and cherish the time you have.

- - 191joannes said
  - 17 Feb 2015
    1:40 pm
I hope you get to spend some more special time with your dad xx

- - BellaB said
  - 15 Feb 2015
    10:10 am
It’s difficult – you do have to manage as best you can at the time. My sympathies.