I think I'm over it - Real Mum story on MoM

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I see so many stories where stay at home mums feel belittled and like people look down on them for embracing a mothers role and staying at home. Let me tell you – I work full time and I’m a single mother and I’m envious of stay at home mums- I so want to be you. I’m not sure what is wrong with me except for a couple of years ago I was diagnosed with arthritis and slightly bulging discs like half of the population. Now it seems to have gone to my hips and my legs and in fact my whole body aches. I feel like the tin man. My feet are getting oedema like when I was pregnant. I have nobody around to help in the state. I do know there are others much, much worse off and I thank my blessings everyday I wake up. I’m not sure what’s going on with my body. I simply don’t really have time to go to the dr for myself and then go for the gazillions of tests it would take to find out and perhaps it’s nothing. The thought has crossed my mind that I may actually be suffering from exhaustion as well. Has anybody else suffered from exhaustion and what did they experience? Also has anybody who was a separated parent ever given up their full time job in favour of staying at home and what do government benefits pay? My child is now 8, so no single parent benefits for me. I’ve worked all my life and worked hard with a die hard work ethic since I was very young and now I’ve had enough. My bones ache, my mind aches, I’m alone and I want to be out of physical pain and mental weariness. Never felt like this before. Not sure what’s keeping me going.

Posted anonymously, 15th September 2014

14 Comments

- - mom113055 said
  - 07 May 2015
    3:05 pm
storys are nice

- - Moonberry said
  - 06 Feb 2015
    4:49 pm
While I’m not sure of the pain your are suffer I am a stay at home mum.. I do also work from home (artisan & designer)! I also home school 3 of my children. I applaud all mums, working mums or stay at home mums, and of course work at home mums.. We are all super awesome!

I hope you find your answers, and one day become a stay at home mum too xx

- - mom93821 said
  - 30 Jan 2015
    9:12 am
Hope things are going well for you.

- - mom93821 said
  - 21 Jan 2015
    9:17 am
Maybe a visit to your GP for some support; they should be able to assist with your medical and other needs; referrals to specialists and possibly counselling. Sounds like you need some TLC. Please seek some support.

- - mom57522 said
  - 16 Jan 2015
    8:54 am
Have you taken yourself to a doctor yet?

- - pakeko said
  - 31 Oct 2014
    9:20 pm
Wow what a huge amount you are going though, hate to say it if you don’t take care off you who will be there for you boy. I get it’s hard to take time off for you but I would get yourself sorted so you can be there for your boy. Huge hugs to you

- - taynik46 said
  - 28 Oct 2014
    10:34 pm
I was saddened to read your story. I’m sure that the love for your child is what keeps you going, I think all mums would agree with that. I hope that you can find some relief from the pain soon. I wish you and your child all the best for the future. Keep your chin up and try to remain positive. Make sure you take time to look after you for you and your child’s sake. Good luck

- - Kelly said
  - 12 Oct 2014
    9:56 pm
I hope things start looking up for You but like the others have said maybe go and see your doctor you never know he/she may be able to help you.

- - mom73117 said
  - 10 Oct 2014
    7:42 am
It sounds like your poor body is completely exhausted. Good on you for working so hard and trying to provide the best life for your child. I don’t know all the details about your health condition but urge you to find some time to take care of you (if at all possible). Maybe go back to your GP or investigate some alternative treatments such as Accupuncture that might assist with your pain and exhaustion. Don’t give up, you are doing an amazing job. Hugs.

- - memo said
  - 30 Sep 2014
    6:49 pm
some good advice here, motherhood is tiring, being a single mum even harder. See a doctor for a check up, you need to look after yourself. you are a strong woman but you need a break now and then. If your budget allows treat you and your son now and then.

- - mom57522 said
  - 29 Sep 2014
    3:20 pm
Get yourself checked out. My husband suffers from Ankylosing spondylitis which is a form of arthritis that leaves him feeling exhausted and drained. It took 10 years of testing before he found an answer.

- - 191joannes said
  - 27 Sep 2014
    8:32 am
Sorry to hear your in pain but your going to have to make time for yourself and go see a doctor.

- - mom72550 said
  - 16 Sep 2014
    5:16 pm
Yes it’s tough working and parenting, and being a single mother just makes it tougher. I think you need to get some help – start by seeing a doctor. You can’t be any help for your child if you are struggling yourself.

- - mom56842 said
  - 16 Sep 2014
    2:06 am
Sorry to hear you’re feeling this way, sounds like you do need some help and if you’re in pain and feeling so tired please see a Doctor and take it from there. I hope your situation improves, it isn’t easy going it alone.