Left my husband for his brother - Real Mum story on MoM

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Im meet my husband 25 years ago as young kids we ended up having a son together when I was 18 and he was 16 we settled down and got our lives together and we stayed together years past and I met his older brother and I was so instantly attracked to him and he was to me also, we fought our feeling for years and stayed really good friends I ended up marring my partner and we had another child together and he also married and hd 2 children, years down the track we both found ourselves unhappy in our realationships and his marriage had fallen apart and I was very unhappy to and I was so much in love with him. We ended up telling everyone in 2012 and our familys where torn apart as you could imagine and still to this day no one excepts us as a couple,not my family or his we know have a child of our own together that’s our love child my family see him and love him but still wont except my realationship I wish people could see they are tearing us apart and we fought for 20 yrs to stay apart but you just cant help who you fall in love with, so many people have turned there backs on us and have said such nasty things about both of us it really hurts that no one can see how much we are in love with each other, ive had to start going to counciling and it just feels so wonderful to have someone on my side telling me I made a choice to be happy I made a choice to live a full life not half a life and its the people who cant except your decisions to make yourself happy are more than likely hiding there own unhappiness.

Posted anonymously, 27th June 2014

14 Comments

- - mom57619 said
  - 28 Feb 2016
    11:56 am
It must be hard for all concerned.

- - coastalkaryn said
  - 22 Feb 2016
    7:29 pm
Hope you are happy

- - BellaB said
  - 05 Feb 2016
    10:32 pm
This must be so hard for everyone.

- - mom113055 said
  - 18 Oct 2015
    3:58 pm
it sreally ahrd when your not in love no one understands but yourself e come to life only once i m on your side

- - mom113055 said
  - 27 Apr 2015
    11:35 am
nice to read stories on this great site

- - mom109463 said
  - 28 Feb 2015
    11:22 pm
This is terrible, things happen, life is not perfect, we have a situation in our family, I am one of 4 girls and one of my sisters chose to leave her husband, she did meet someone else within 12 mnths and has had another child, so 14 years between her last 2 children, however some of the family took the husbands side and wiped my sister off, so basically our family is split we no longer have family get togethers, Christmas etc, which is a shame as we were very close, now it is my sister that separated and me, and the other two who decided to be judgemental about her choices, even my parents have commented that they have never seen her as happy as she is now, and as they said at the time, no matter what she has done she is their daughter and will always have their support even if they do not agree with what she has done, in hindsight she did the right thing, she was not happy in her marriage and no one else knows what goes on in a relationship, I hope that you and your partner find peace together, don’t worry about anyone else it is their loss, look after yourself and your partner, you are the most important, it always amazes me that people can choose to pass judgement on others when you never know when your own circumstances may change.

- - pakeko said
  - 24 Feb 2015
    2:03 pm
Family situations can be very complicated, and so many people have been hurt or are hurting by what has happened. Hope you can all heal and move forward from this

- - mom93821 said
  - 20 Jan 2015
    5:13 pm
Family situations can be very complicated.

- - jessmumof2 said
  - 08 Jul 2014
    10:19 pm
Your happiness is all that counts, very tough situation for all

- - mom61924 said
  - 03 Jul 2014
    6:07 pm
Good luck with everything a very tough situation

- - Kelly said
  - 03 Jul 2014
    12:12 pm
Firstly well done for living your life with the person you want to and love deeply.
I really dont understand some people especially families as all they say they ever want is to see their children or siblings happy with their lives.
Why would any parent want to see their own child in a unhappy relationship, its not like you were having an affair with your then brother in law you both waited until you were out of your marriages.
I really hope you both just say bugger the families and live a long and happy life together.

- - Peace.Love.Empathy. said
  - 30 Jun 2014
    12:41 pm
Good luck with everything, it’s a tough situation.

- - hopefullyheidi said
  - 28 Jun 2014
    6:53 pm
It’s hard that even you’re own family can’t accept you. That must be exceptionally difficult.

- - trishoet said
  - 27 Jun 2014
    9:30 pm
I couldn’t even imagine what you’re going through. Put it this way if I was married to my husband for many years and we had a family together only for it to end and he ended up with my sister it would be the most heart breaking thing. It would be more forgiving if you ended up with his friend but since it’s his brother it’s the ultimate betrayal. It’s hard for them to see how truly happy you are because they are still disgusted with how it all turned out but there’s not much that can be done but just give it time. As long as your own family is happy, safe and loved then that’s all that matters. They may or may not come around but just focus on your own little family and you’ll get through. Wish you all the best