Life, it's not as you know it! - Real Mum story on MoM

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On the 7th of April 2010 i gave birth to a big baby boy whom we named Dayn John Isaac August, Came into a loving family and a very young mum with a 18 month girl already (Lara Lynn August). I came from a family whom let babys do what they like to an extent, i let lara lay on her belly when she was a baby, Got told your not ment to but Lara loved it so i didn’t really mind, i knew she was fine. I get told she has been raised really well, from me coming from a broken family and all. Lara listens to every word i said and knows if she don’t she just goes to time out. i don’t even have to say. I never really knew what sids were or what things can happen to children when they are still newborns but then it hit me……. Hi my name is Bonnie-Lee im 23 years of age and i lost my son Dayn John Isaac August, on the 20th of June 2010 ( 4 days till my 19th) to RSV, i donated his brain to research. his spirt has moved on so wanted to help any other familys out there that may loss there children, hope it helps…. He was 8 weeks old, most presious baby ever, went threw gastro at 3 weeks he caught it from his sister who is now 6. Lara Lynn loves her brother, helping me change his bum and bottle feeding him for me while i change, i pumped milk just so she could feed him. when he had a little “attention sook” Lara was the first to his side with a freshly pump bottle of milk, she misses him as mush as i do but she knows what is going on and i can’t take the hurt away that she is feeling, Dayn has a wonderful family but im going threw ALOT. it don’t help when my partner just puts his walls up when i try and speak about it. No idea if thats what men do but it don’t help me out at all. He will be 5 years soon and can’t wait to see him again, I still have most of his things but will be donating it to the right people, I will also be buying Dayn Pressies on his birthday/Mothers day/easter/Fathers day and christmas, donating them to a different place every year. theres one thing i do know and thats his great nanna and puppa is looking after him, Hi my name is Bonnie-Lee and that is my story!!!

Posted anonymously, 1st December 2014

8 Comments

- - smiles said
  - 25 Apr 2015
    9:38 pm
Thanks for sharing your story. Such a sad story but the way you have handled it is amazing I love how you buy him presents and donate them to others.

- - keeleynme said
  - 15 Dec 2014
    1:51 pm
I feel for you, and that is just your husband’s way of grieving, I know it may not help you but every one grieves differently. I am the same, I block things out and try not to think about them, cause If I do I’m a mess.

- - mom103936 said
  - 08 Dec 2014
    4:39 pm
I am sos orry for the loss of your precious bubba. I lost my only child at 8.5 weeks old. She has a heart condition i miss her greatly. Thank you for sharing your story.

- - mom105503 said
  - 05 Dec 2014
    10:39 pm
Xxx

- - BellaB said
  - 05 Dec 2014
    8:30 pm
We also donate presents in memory of our dead child.

- - mrsgreen12 said
  - 03 Dec 2014
    12:53 pm
So sorry for your loss
speechless
sending love

- - Bonnie-Lee91 said
  - 02 Dec 2014
    1:22 pm
It’s our way of turning a negative in our lives to a wonderful positive to others who need it most, we now all donate to canteen, not for research purpose but for the children & families going threw there own difficult times.
They all go to a camp where they can in some way forgot about having cancer & share smiles & laughs.
It is a beautiful cause.
You also get letters from the child you donate to go on the camp, it’s only in South Australia but making an impact of joy to some else makes me feel a lot more positive.

- - shilto02 said
  - 02 Dec 2014
    11:22 am
So sorry for your loss. The pain of losing a child is almost too impossible for me to think about. What a wonderful way of remembering your precious little boy, by donating presents in his memory on special occasions.