It recently dawned on me that I’m living two lives, it wasn’t a conscious decision and I didn’t see it happening but now here it is and I’m not sure how I feel about it.
I have one beautiful 7 month old boy, during the week he’s home with Dad while I work. On the weekends my husband works and this is my time with kiddo to hang out. We don’t get a lot of family time but we also don’t have the daunting hurdle of childcare so it’s the choice we made. The strange thing is, this set up has split my life into two very separate entities and it’s starting to feel a bit odd.
At work I’m a confident hard hitting manager in a fast paced high stress environment, I have to stay ahead of the game and perform better then the competitors. Which is fine, I’m totally comfortable with this I’ve been doing it for years.
At home I’m a first time mum, bumbling through the day, constantly second guessing what I’m doing and doubting my abilities. My plans never seem to come to fruition and everything happens on baby time. Which I’m actually okay with as well (this took a while)
The scary thing is I feel like two completely different people depending on what environment I’m in, there’s no cross over or similarities at all.
Has anyone else come across this? Or something similar?

Posted by Kelly, 6th May 2015

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  • All I can say is “Lucky You!” You have a life outside of home that constantly reminds you, you are good at something. You are a capable confident, relevant human being


  • I’m the same, great post


  • Oh yeah! Without the kids am a totally different person.


  • Trust your mothers instinct and don’t second guess yourself.


  • Yes I can totally relate. I was a lawyer two days a week and a stay-at-home first time mum the rest of the time. Felt exactly as you do. Enjoyed both roles and somehow it just worked…it was just me.


  • I think lots of people can relate to this. Life gets hectic and crazy. I do hope every now and then you get some beautiful family time that makes everything worth it


  • Different places and different faces and that is normal.


  • Oh yeah, this is totally normal. I’ve seen it so many times – work personality very different to home personality.

    • You just have to have wind down time at home as it is a safe haven.


  • I often feel exactly the same and have since my children were born. I loved by boys but needed to work so did early on and often it does feel like there are two of me – the home me and the work me. Have accepted it now and am finding they can melt together sometimes now as my children grown more and more independent.

    • Thanks, so nice to hear other people have had the same experiences.


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