love yourself! your friends may not be so good for you

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i have just recently ended a 15 year friendship with a friend. in the beginning we were like the best of friends. time went on and we had found partners and had children. we still had a lot in comman. recently she has become so obsessed about stupid things and really judgemental and critical of everything. it is such a strange new chapter to begin without her. we tried to make it but it seems that somehow we have just become two totally different people even though we are at the same stage in life. i’m sure this happens to people everywhere but it’s the first break-up friendship that i have ever had. usually you just drift away and it doesn’t really matter. i think my life will be more positive but it is just letting that friendship go

Posted by mom94125, 12th November 2014

9 Comments

- - pakeko said
  - 31 Jan 2016
    8:35 pm
Walking away is the easy bit staying away is hard. Strong and find some new friends that are good for you

- - mom81879 said
  - 23 Sep 2015
    12:40 pm
How strong if you to be able to realise you needed to walk away and then to do it! So proud of you. It will take some time to adjust to life without your friend, but I’m sure you’ll cope just fine

- - mom90758 said
  - 08 Mar 2015
    8:20 am
It’s very difficult, I can imagine. But it was surely the best thing to do, and I am sure you realize this every day a little bit more.

- - blondie said
  - 01 Dec 2014
    12:15 am
I also lost a close friendship. We worked together, had our first children within months apart and then I left town. I visited often and when I found out she was moving to the same town as me, it was super exciting! I did all the right things, looking at rentals for them, offering a bed when they visited to check things out. They moved closer and things were great. However, I started feeling stressed and having negative vibes in the friendship. Being ignored, left out and lied too. In the end, I ended the friendship. A huge weight felt like it was lifted off my shoulders and was I able to get back to a positive lifestyle. I always believe that things happen for a reason.

- - BellaB said
  - 16 Nov 2014
    10:11 pm
It’s so difficult to acknowledge when things go wrong between friends, especially if it’s an abrupt break.

- - hopefullyheidi said
  - 16 Nov 2014
    9:24 pm
Is she stressed out about something maybe, or has this just been happening gradually for a long time as a personality thing? It can be tough letting friendships or relationships go that are negative but it’s often the right decision or has been for me anyway, as sometimes it can be those people’s negativity that brings you down and makes you feel depressed before you realise.

- - aohnesorgen said
  - 15 Nov 2014
    8:55 pm
I really believe the saying about how people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. I say cherish the friendship that you had with fond memories but accept that you’re now separate people. I’m sure someone or something else wonderful will come into your life soon!

- - cherz said
  - 15 Nov 2014
    6:53 pm
I think this is also like some marriages, I do believe that some times people just grow apart and change. If you are not happy and things are not working out, you also have to think about your own health and happiness and moving on maybe the answer.

- - mom103936 said
  - 13 Nov 2014
    11:20 am
I have had to say goodbye to some close friends. It can be very tough and letting go. I have found my true friends have stuck by me no matter what. I hope you have other good friends to rely on.