Mummy guilt. - Real Mum story on MoM

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I have a 21 month old daughter and I have been back at work for 8 months now. I only work 2 days a week and my daughter is cared for by her Dad or Grandma when I’m working. She has adjusted ok, there are no more tears when I leave. But I feel awful whenever I leave, maybe because she doesn’t get upset anymore… Like she doesn’t miss me, or even worse, she doesn’t need me anymore. I knew I had to adjust to going back to work, and that it wouldn’t be easy. But I feel guilty that I want my daughter to be upset when I leave for work. I guess I knew she wanted me to be with her and that she needed me, when she would grab my leg and cuddle tight. I just feel so awful and guilty.

Posted by mothergoose, 3rd July 2013

7 Comments

- - mom172741 said
  - 31 Oct 2016
    9:38 am
What a great thing to build resilience in your child. Having supportive family members that she feels comfortable with. I guess trying to explore further where this guilt comes from and why you feel she doesn’t need you if she is not upset when you leave.

- - Lillys-mummy said
  - 25 Jun 2015
    3:54 pm
I have a casual job that could soon turn into full time. At the moment when I do get called in its in the early hours when she is still sleeping and I miss her like crazy at work, I’m dreading when it goes full time.

- - mom57522 said
  - 05 Jan 2015
    4:25 pm
It’s often harder for the mums than the bubs.

- - mom93821 said
  - 23 Dec 2014
    12:13 pm
It is a big adjustment for parents; kids seem to cope well; which is a good thing. Be kind to yourself!

- - caramello said
  - 31 Jul 2014
    10:23 pm
we all feel guilty at some point. *hugs*

- - jodie80 said
  - 31 Mar 2014
    6:57 pm
mummys always feel guilty .

- - taz_za87 said
  - 04 Jul 2013
    11:31 am
i returned to work quite early after my second and still to this day i feel guilty but at the end of the day its there interest at heart ps think of the mini break you get whilst at work =)