My partner of 8 years left me for another woman three years ago and I have never fully recovered from it, nor have I dated anyone else. I’ve filled my life with focusing on my kids and volunteering to meet new people after relocating to a new town. I’ve also started an exercise program to lose some excess weight and gain confidence. Recently, my ex partner has called me to say he wants to meet up. Because I don’t feel that I ever fully recovered or have gotten over the pain, loss and rejection by him, I am concerned that I am still vulnerable to his intentions. Part of me wants to reconnect with him and hear him tell me it was all a mistake and he wants me back. The other part of me says let sleeping dogs lie and good riddance. Once a bad apple always one. I am still in the process of building a new life for me and my kids and I am only just starting to feel that I am getting somewhere. How do I reconcile the emptiness and loneliness that I feel often and stay true to myself and don’t go back and not give in to meeting up with him. I feel torn.
Posted anonymously, 25th October 2014