My partner of 8 years left me for another woman three years ago and I have never fully recovered from it, nor have I dated anyone else. I’ve filled my life with focusing on my kids and volunteering to meet new people after relocating to a new town. I’ve also started an exercise program to lose some excess weight and gain confidence. Recently, my ex partner has called me to say he wants to meet up. Because I don’t feel that I ever fully recovered or have gotten over the pain, loss and rejection by him, I am concerned that I am still vulnerable to his intentions. Part of me wants to reconnect with him and hear him tell me it was all a mistake and he wants me back. The other part of me says let sleeping dogs lie and good riddance. Once a bad apple always one. I am still in the process of building a new life for me and my kids and I am only just starting to feel that I am getting somewhere. How do I reconcile the emptiness and loneliness that I feel often and stay true to myself and don’t go back and not give in to meeting up with him. I feel torn.

Posted anonymously, 25th October 2014

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  • I hope everything worked out and you are in a great place! Best Wishes!


  • I think the fact that you are questioning whether seeing him is an good idea or not strongly suggests that for you it is not.
    Find your feet (as you have been doing) by yourself, have confidence in yourself and see your worth without having to have another reinforce that fact. There’s s quote going around these days saying how when the past comes knocking leave that door shut, there’s nothing new there for you its all ahead of you. Hope it works out for you.

    • Sorry, just saw the date of post. I should say now that I hope it all worked out for you.


  • If I was u I wouldn’t give him any chance at all if he has done that to u he may do it again, do u know how they broke up ext did he leave him so nw he wants u back as he can’t b with the other girl.
    Be carefu stat strong think of yourself


  • I think you really need to sit down and write all the pros and cons of meeting him or not.
    I think if it were me i would be asking why he wants to meet up.
    Has he split up with the girl he left you for ?
    I know many people will say once a cheater always a cheater but i dont believe that i believe that people can change and if they want someone enough then they will change.
    Good luck with your decision.


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