Mums are Mums !Are Mums in laws Mums

23 Comments

I know a quite weird,common and touching topic.But still these realtionships the more you talk about them the more you learn had some whta different stories you comeup with. I started my journey of relations in afamily of four sisters and never ever thought of missing another realtionship which a brother. We had no brother but were always brought up like boys by our parents.Had everything in life, money, education, career , nice & healthy environment of being heard and say your opinion. Life was wonderful so far. Life a took turn when my elder sister got married and settle in a joint family of Mother in law father in law ,brother in law and siter in law. Everything was good , good & understanding between relations.So far life was smooth with no complaints. But dont know when this wind of distrust came and everything started taking a twist. Good and understanding realtions were no more, realtions in family were challengeing each other existence . it started when my sister’s mother in law got sick and she sarted having a fear of getting lost of powers and then she started knitting realtionships of distrust and spread bad words about my sister. Instead my sister was always besides her taking care of her washing all hr closes, bed ,taking her to the toilet and washing her. but dont know where the evil came in her taht she started poisoning my sisters husband ears and tellling him lies about my sister.My sister husband stated hateing my sister and joined his mum complianing about her and giving her physical threats, everthying changed all sacrifices she made for him turned back on her and she lost lost hope and started taking sleeping pills inorder to avoid what aws happening in the family. Mother in law after few months got well but still she wasnt normal with her ,and tried to pretend as if whtever she said was right about my sister and tried to separate them.But my sister kept patienece and waited for the time and slowly and steadly she got her husband trust back and he realised his mother is under a depression and she is in a habbit of making stories and from there fater he started trusting his own eyes rather realising his mums words.Today their realtionship is good ther are blessed with two kids one son & one girl.
But this entire story had a very bad impact on me when i got maried i had in my mind mother in laws are always bad and they will always create a differenec in you and your husband realtionships.I never wanted to get married in joint family but destiny played its role me and my husband had to settle in a joint family. so each time i did anything i was always conscious and but always living in a treat of getteing rejected. But i was in wrong impression mother in law was the sweetest experience i had in my life , she was caring she loving and if me and husband ever inulged into an argument she always helped us to sorted that. She always believed that relationships are made in heaven and always stck to your loved onesno matter what situations you are in , you stay strong an united you can overcome the troubles. She said Love is the only solution of realtions and live and breath it ……………….and then you have everything what you dreamt of in life. Yes altalst I thought and my words were Mums are Mums but Mother in laws are also Mums on her death bed and i gave her a big hug and said she will always stay in my heart and I love her.

Posted anonymously, 15th May 2014

23 Comments

- - mom112217 said
  - 30 Jun 2016
    8:45 am
I have a wonderful mother-in-law and it makes life great for when we get together and enjoy each other’s company.

- - mom81879 said
  - 28 Sep 2015
    2:58 pm
I hear a lot of negatives about mothers in law. Thankfully, I had the best, excellent Nan too. Wouldn’t change her for the world

- - mom113055 said
  - 14 Sep 2015
    3:13 pm
mums laws

- - mom56842 said
  - 25 Sep 2014
    10:40 pm
That’s nice. Pity I got the mother in law from hell.

- - eestigirl said
  - 14 Jun 2014
    4:43 pm
My mum in law treated her sons in law and daughters in law the same as she did her own children. We all called her Mum. She treated all the grandchildren the same too. A lovely lady!
- mom57522 replied
  
  11 Jan 2015 , 1:16 pm
  That’s how my in laws are too. I speak more to hubby’s mum than he does.
- - coppin85 said
  - 30 May 2014
    3:04 pm
thats beautiful what you said to her

- - katelt said
  - 30 May 2014
    8:03 am
Mum in law and I had a bit of a rough start, but by the time she died we had a fantastic relationship. She has been gone 5 years, and I still find myself picking up the phone to call her.

- - coppin85 said
  - 28 May 2014
    4:55 pm
its great to have a good mil

- - scottie said
  - 28 May 2014
    1:53 pm
great to hear of the good relationships

- - meimei said
  - 25 May 2014
    7:51 pm
Some have great relationship with MiL but some not.

- - kozack said
  - 24 May 2014
    10:03 pm
i have a wonderful mother in law i call her mum she is like my best friend sometimes people are shocked to find in laws so close

- - twinmum2 said
  - 23 May 2014
    9:14 am
I glad you have been blessed by such a nice mother in law. She is also lucky to have you as her daughter in law.

- - mel1 said
  - 16 May 2014
    6:42 pm
Some people are lucky with the family they marry into and some aren’t. My relationship with my mother-in-law was difficult. But worse still are my sisters-in-law. Some people are just nasty. My mother-in-law has also passed now and things did get better before she died, but she really made life hard at times.

- - Kelly said
  - 16 May 2014
    5:26 pm
My first mother in law was a nightmare always putting me down on how i brought up the children hence why she’s my ex mother in law.

i remarried and my mother in law was wonderful she passw
- Kelly replied
  
  16 May 2014 , 5:28 pm
  sorry passed enter before i finished.
  
  Mother in law passed away january last year and she was fantastic we had such a great relationship.
- - catgrrl3 said
  - 16 May 2014
    1:19 pm
my mother is not the greatest person in the world, but my mother in law more than makes up for that. I was brought up as a tom boy too, and never missed having a bro in the family.

- - tilly said
  - 16 May 2014
    10:22 am
I have a great one too so I am very lucky. Thanks for sharing.

- - arcticwynta said
  - 15 May 2014
    11:54 pm
when I got marred 28 years ago my Mother in law and my self got on great when she was hurt at work and suffering depression as well as the pain. rang her every day for months. Now my Husband would think it great to come out with hurtful things about it that could deal with but when he did it n front of his mates that was different so Hubby went him about it. I and my sister in law were hanging new curtains as well as matching bed set when I heard his Mother calling me a slut and whore and more to my Hubby so I few out the bedroom and she met my temper for the first time. Hubby told them to leave and not come back as would not have his family treated or talked about like that…they got about 2 KLM away and she came back and apologized but also was proud that Hubby choose use and stood up for us. Well we get along great now but I never bite my lip with her any more as I say it how it is and she likes that about me.
Last year my Father n law asked us if any thing happens to him would we take her in of course we said yes as we would do the same for her as my Mum. But many years ago we use to say we would hate to be the one’s to have her old grumpy but we love her and will work it out when the time comes and she knows she will at times cope the venom that comes out of my mouth. I also was worried when I got married If I would get on with them but than I decided I married my Husband not them so if they didn’t like some thing that just get told it’s your problem and no skin of my nose. I forgot to mention that when my daughter just turned 14 Hubby’s mother wanted nothing to do with us up until 5 years ago and now they can see we have never asked nothing from them but went we first met again again I gave it to her with both barrels as My Hubbies Dad did not know about any of it and wandered why we didn’t visit ….well that day he soon found out. Gotta love them with all the good bad and the ugly.
thanks for your post as it made me look at mine again
- hopefullyheidi replied
  
  17 May 2014 , 2:37 am
  That’s testimony to the wonderful self insightful person you are. You have the ability to self appraise and reflect and that’s one heck of a quality. I hope your mum is doing ok as I have been seeing your posts and was wondering how things are going.
- - Starlight said
  - 15 May 2014
    10:25 pm
Its amazing the impact other peoples relationships effect how we believe ours will be. I’m glad you got a loving one.

- - krissy333 said
  - 15 May 2014
    7:58 pm
your sister has a very kind heart. I’m blessed with a great mother in law, i think she is closer to me now then my husband lol

- - amal80 said
  - 15 May 2014
    10:41 am
OMG sounds horrible for your sister, glad your story turned out differently