I think you did well to not say anything for so long. You’re not petty and she should be pulling her weight. Good for you for speaking up

I think you did the right thing by addressing the issue; however “losing your cool’ does not help. I would just clean up after myself for a few days and see if anyone notices and says something. Maybe they never thought about it and now might be a good time to bring it up if anyone else asks about it. I always write myself some point if I know there will be a discussion, so as not get too emotional. good luck

Sometimes you just have to get it out otherwise it festers. unfortunately there is often not a nice way to say that sort of thing so your dammed if you do and dammed if you don’t!!

so i hope that you have this sorted now. hope you are more balanced at work

Sometimes a good vent is all you need… I hope she is pulling her weight now

Yeah she should

it s a great story

i think that you should talk to her or if you are concerned, talk to your boss and get them to (not mention you) but say “i’ve noticed that you haven’t been cleaning as much” etc. i know what it feels like to indirectly be forced to pick up the slack.

I would of done the exact same as you and left it for her to come into in the morning or i may of left a note saying “i thought cleaning was shared not one sided”

I dont think its petty. Its both of your jobs, she should be pulling her weight. I can understand why you lost your cool.

You let it build up for a long time, you were right to express your concerns that she wasn’t doing what she was meant to be doing in her job description.Could you have expressed it in a different way to her? Possibly. I guess the way to make it at ease with her is to have a chat women to women over a cuppa and express your feelings in a nice way so she can see were you are coming from. If this doesn’t work, then it’s your choice if you want to stay in that work place and put up with the tension or look elsewhere & be happy again!

Is it supposed to be part of your job to be cleaning the kitchen?

At my last paid job (SAHM now), no one was assigned kitchen duties. BUY eveny morning I would go in and there would be crap everywhere and no teaspoons. I would clean up and then got sick of it. I mean, how hard is it to wash your spoon with boiling hot water (after boiling the kettle!) and put it in the dish drainer!

Not petty, things like this can make a good work environment toxic, how many people use the facilities, speak to your manager, make it clear that you are happy to do your share, but everyone else needs to do the same, every office I have worked in has a sign telling you to clean up after yourself, obviously someone has to do a proper wipe down and clean every day but if everything if put away and kept tidy this is a minimal inconvenience, the manager can make it all about efficiency in that it is not included in anyones duty statement and it needs to be, either everyone pulls their weight or you get a roster system, it needs to be resolved, you may find the other lady is feeling the same as you and she has just got sick of it and though well why should I clean it!!! You may even be able to speak to her about it and if this is the case, both of you could cease cleaning the area and see how long it takes for action to be taken. speak to your manager, let them know you are happy to help but it is taking you away from your work to clean up mess from other people, when it comes to efficiency management usually listen and management may not even be aware of it.

Depends if its part of you job description then you have no choice but to do it if its not just don’t do it.

you have the right to be annoyed. I would be too! I would speak to her or your supervisor about it and try to resolve it. You both have the same role, you should both share an equal role in the position

its time you had a chat with her or your supervisor.

I think that’s fair enough if it’s meant to be a shared job then it’s only fair that she should do it to.

Nope, I’d have the discussion, the stewing is worse for me than the uncomfortable 5 minutes of talking to her about her responsibilities =)

Workplace politics can be very stressful and worrying. In fact sometimes I think it’s the most challenging thing about work. Having to adapt and deal with different personality types can be tricky. I hope all went well.