Not under the bathing suit. - Real Mum story on MoM

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I want to bring awareness to parents of keeping children safe. It is not always a stranger that will sexually molest your child. As frightful as it is you need to make your children fully aware while keeping their innocence.
A good rule is ” no one is allowed to touch your body that is usually covered by your bathing suit.”

Parents put trust in teachers, babysitters, friends and family members. As awful as it is, these people you trust are sometimes the ones who break this trust and change your child forever.

It is the worst heartbreak a parent can ever experience, to have their child so violated. As early as possible teach your child to bathe and dress themselves. Toilet train them early. The more they can do for themselves, the less amount of people they will have changing and cleaning them.

Having worked for many years with children who have been violated and helping families heal is heartbreaking.
Protecting a child is the mother’s responsibility. There was a time when parenting was what mothers did, no one else. Because many mothers work, other people are caring for your child. Having your child in day care generates desensitising of having more than mother providing personal care. Please also get to know your partner, there are fathers who prey on their own children. If you do not really get to know someone, and have a child together, this is a risk. If you have a partner in a parenting role who is not the biological father, this is a risk. So many women trust their child to the care of someone they hardly know.
Read all you can so you are fully aware of child behaviour when they have been sexually Abused abusers are not always men either, there are women who sexually abuse children as well. There are many warning signs, be aware and pay attention to your child’s behaviour.

Posted anonymously, 17th March 2015

8 Comments

- - mom81879 said
  - 25 Sep 2015
    12:21 pm
Such a terrible thing, people who want to hurt innocent children, under the guise of ‘loving’ them. I only left my kids with highly trusted, very well known family members.

- - mom113055 said
  - 07 May 2015
    2:48 pm
great story to read
- deb_gs replied
  
  30 Jun 2015 , 4:24 pm
  Did you actually read the story?
  - june11 replied
    
    19 Mar 2016 , 8:26 pm
    
    Deb, I don’t think that person does. One “elephant” seems to make that or similar comment on most articles.
    It is pretty tragic if even the children’s father can’t be trusted. I heard about one little girl who was so traumatised that even after a few months counselling if she saw another kid she knew with their Dad she literally “froze”. Her Mum had to visit the school and ensure her daughter had no contact with a male teacher at all. If she didn’t know the kids she was even more distressed. Her Father was gaoled on remand initially before being gaoled and her Mum divorced him as soon as was legally able to do so. Because he was gambling away his wages the Mum had taken a permanent night time job to pay for their food etc. Her Mum discovered it when the little girl said she was sore and she discovered blood soaked knickers. He was using his biggest finger. He was doing the washing while she was at work at night, and also bathing his daughter. I also know of a girl who was molested by another relative when she was 8 years old, and another one who was abducted on her way to school one morning and raped 3 times during the day before being let go home at the end of school time. She ended up in a private phyciatric hospital on several occasions.
- - nictate said
  - 17 Apr 2015
    5:10 am
Great advice given here. Thank you. There are books around about keeping your body safe for kids and parents. Also about naming body parts correcting. Empowering children to keep their bodies safe. You are so right, it is a parent’s worst nightmare

- - mom113055 said
  - 15 Apr 2015
    3:25 pm
nice and exellent to read the story

- - mom94125 said
  - 24 Mar 2015
    4:31 pm
yes such a scary thought! make sure we educate our children and make them aware

- - BellaB said
  - 19 Mar 2015
    2:34 pm
Yes, it’s important to be aware. It’s a fine line to walk, protecting your child without making them fearful.