Rock bottom - Real Mum story on MoM

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I got pregnant when I was 19, I was living with my daughters father and friends, things were rocky to say the least, he always went out clubbing, treated me like his piggy bank and sponged off my earnings. we moved into a place together, and 3 weeks into the 6 month lease he dumped me over text.

I then found out he had been cheating on me, I tried to forgive him, make things work sort out our issues, but he had started a relationship with this new girl. he was emotionally abusive and threatening. I was lucky to have a full time job untill 36 weeks, so after he moved out to live with his new gf i could scrape the rent through. I couldnt afford to eat, all my money went to rent and preparing for the baby.

I have struggled severe depression all my life, been in and out of perth clinic and on all sorts of anti depressants and anxiety medication, as a pregnant alone alone and vulnerable teenager my ex took advantage of me. He cheated on his new gf with me, he refused to give back my keys and would rock up whenever he wanted.

I had to stay strong. I had to be ok for my little girl. I fough the depression, the anxiety, the meltdowns and all i though of, was my beautiful little girl in my arms. that when she is there it would all be worth it, the pain, the heartache everything will be ok.

2 weeks before i was due, I asked my ex to stay at the house, incase i went into labour and couldnt drive to the hospital. he said he wouldnt stay. It was a wednesday, I decided that day, in a moment of clarity, that I was never going get any help o support from him, that it was ok to be on my own and it will be ok. That friday I stayed at my parents house on a whim, and had my girl on the saturday.

I didnt let him in the delivery room, he bashed on the door but i didnt let him in. My mum was holding my hand the whole way, she was my rock, and to this day she is an incredible woman for helping me as she does.

for the first 3 months I lived on my own, and It was good. I couldnt afford to eat very often, I didnt go out much, I just stared into my beautiful little girls eyes and it was ok

Posted by taylorjane92, 15th March 2013

12 Comments

- - june11 said
  - 18 Jul 2016
    9:16 pm
If you can I would speak to your landlord and see if you are allowed to take in a trustworthy boarder – perhaps a friend you know and trust to share the cost of the rent and utilities with you and whatever arrangements you negotiate…..or you can find somebody to rent it if you can find somewhere cheaper for yourself. If oyu move hopefully your ex won’t find where you are living. If you keep working tell your fellow employees, including your boss that he is not to be told where you are living or other private matters. If they access your records to do it they are breaching the privacy act. Depending on company policy they can be dismissed from their jobs. Don’t be afraid to seek help from a charity for food etc for you and your baby.

- - mom166154 said
  - 19 Nov 2015
    11:19 am
Such an incredibly mature and brave decision – well done and best of luck to you and your little family

- - mom81879 said
  - 07 Nov 2015
    7:22 pm
This story has its highs and lows. Glad to read you came through ok, so far. Not good youth not eating though. You need to keep yourself healthy for your daughter. Have you tried asking charities for help? It’s hard, but once you make the step, you’ll be glad you did

- - dannsbuild said
  - 26 Sep 2015
    4:04 pm
Thank you for sharing this. Very interesting reading!

- - mom113055 said
  - 19 Jul 2015
    3:55 pm
really beutiful

- - mom108638 said
  - 04 Jun 2015
    11:27 am
Unconditional love can really show you what is real… even if it’s hard.

- - shelley shelley said
  - 01 May 2015
    12:33 pm
I’m in a very similar situation at the moment and understand completely. The only thing that keeps me going is my beautiful daughter-3 yo. I don’t know what I would do without her. Best wishes xo

- - mom113055 said
  - 26 Apr 2015
    3:03 pm
i ike these stories

- - deborah_osborne said
  - 23 Feb 2015
    1:54 pm
Good to read u made it thru ,I was at my girls deliveries of there children ,very rewarding experience

- - mom94125 said
  - 02 Jan 2015
    9:13 pm
wow this is a beautiful story and you are amazingly strong. Honestly i think that a lot of people would stay in that situation because even though it isn’t a healthy relationship, it is better than nothing. You are being a great role model to your child and you do deserve much better. You are worth loving and you have put your child first. You have my respect for that. I know that you must be so hurt and lonely but keep focusing on your child and when the time is right, you will find someone who will be there for you and the man that will stand by you and your daughter, will be a man that i would respect so much. Get through this mumma!
- mom57522 replied
  
  12 Jan 2015 , 9:02 am
  I agree with you that people often stay in relationships because it’s better than nothing.
  Stay strong taylorjane, you are doing an awesome job.
  - hopefullyheidi replied
    
    25 Oct 2015 , 9:55 am
    
    I agree with both of you. People do often stay in unhealthy, emotionally or physically abusive relationships because they feel it’s better than being alone. Being alone allows you to jump off the emotional roller coaster these abusers would try and take you on, so that you can focus that precious love on the people around you who are worthy of it, such as your beautiful child and family. You were not put on this earth to be someone else’s emotional punching bag, and at the right time, the right person will come along that loves the whole of you.